MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
HeHeHe. No, even worse I think two women wrote it lol.bigjohnson said:Did LMS write this paper?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
'insidious said:If anything, feminists would have to face the fact that in
the profession of prostitution, the famed "glass ceiling" is
reversed with women making much more than men.
Shhhh.....you might kill the romanceRollo Tomassi said:As I've posted on many times before, but it bears repeating, as a Man you will ALWAYS pay for sex in some way. You may finance it, you may buy it retail, you might rent it and you might just beat off to the advertising, but rest assured, you WILL pay.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
It's great stuff, but for the most part no one wants to think about this stuff. Some people know it, quite a few divorced guys suspect it in a really angry and bitter way, but almost no one wants to just accept it for what it is without anger or other emotions.ketostix said:HeHeHe. No, even worse I think two women wrote it lol.
Rollo Tomassi said:As I've posted on many times before, but it bears repeating, as a Man you will ALWAYS pay for sex in some way. You may finance it, you may buy it retail, you might rent it and you might just beat off to the advertising, but rest assured, you WILL pay.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I totally, 100% agree with you. It's truly a shame that it's illegal in virtually every state(except Nevada of course). I really can't understand why. It doesn't make sense. As long as the woman is tested and practices safe sex(condoms, birth control, etc.).steve38 said:I sincerely believe that if prostitution was affordable, accessible, and most importantly, socially acceptable to all males that the world would be a better place. Divorce rate much lower, women not as powerful, guys having options etc.
Wow, I didn't know that. That's news to me.KontrollerX said:She said months and years prior to her death that she feared she would be "suicided" and she also made it clear that if she were ever found dead it would be murder despite any official claims.
So yeah I'm pretty much running with the theory that some powerful scum had her eliminated.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.