"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Good dates that do not necessarily involve drinking?

JLW

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There was a thread here about how going out to get a drink or two is a good idea for the first couple dates. The reasons why are pretty obvious. When drinking, you are in an exciting social setting (usually), you are both a little bit more relaxed, and drinking is almost always fun.

Here is the thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=178224

This is all true, but are there any sorts of dates that do not necessarily involve drinking that are still good for building attraction? We're talking dates #1-5, the early stages of getting to know a girl...

The reason I ask is because I've taken this girl out three times now, all three times to a different bar (F closed on the third date). I'm really not the drinking type, and I was trying to think of some other things to do that still can build attraction.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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JLW

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Oh, and in case you're wondering why I don't like going out to drink very much, it's because I am on a very strict workout/nutrition plan, and I prefer not to drink because drinking does absolutely no good for you when trying to build muscle...
 

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You dont have to take them anywhere if you don't want. If you've already ****ed her, just invite her over. If you really want more cook something for her and spend a little time on the setup (make it look fancy) or Take her to do crap you actually like. Look around at stuff to do in your area and pick 3 things you actually want to do. Then pick 2 of the 3 that would be good to do with her and do those 2 things. Personally, I am way too lazy to go dancing or I'm generally too cheap to buy drinks unless it's a gas station.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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