Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Good dates that do not necessarily involve drinking?

JLW

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There was a thread here about how going out to get a drink or two is a good idea for the first couple dates. The reasons why are pretty obvious. When drinking, you are in an exciting social setting (usually), you are both a little bit more relaxed, and drinking is almost always fun.

Here is the thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=178224

This is all true, but are there any sorts of dates that do not necessarily involve drinking that are still good for building attraction? We're talking dates #1-5, the early stages of getting to know a girl...

The reason I ask is because I've taken this girl out three times now, all three times to a different bar (F closed on the third date). I'm really not the drinking type, and I was trying to think of some other things to do that still can build attraction.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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JLW

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Oh, and in case you're wondering why I don't like going out to drink very much, it's because I am on a very strict workout/nutrition plan, and I prefer not to drink because drinking does absolutely no good for you when trying to build muscle...
 

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You dont have to take them anywhere if you don't want. If you've already ****ed her, just invite her over. If you really want more cook something for her and spend a little time on the setup (make it look fancy) or Take her to do crap you actually like. Look around at stuff to do in your area and pick 3 things you actually want to do. Then pick 2 of the 3 that would be good to do with her and do those 2 things. Personally, I am way too lazy to go dancing or I'm generally too cheap to buy drinks unless it's a gas station.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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