"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Good dates that do not necessarily involve drinking?

JLW

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There was a thread here about how going out to get a drink or two is a good idea for the first couple dates. The reasons why are pretty obvious. When drinking, you are in an exciting social setting (usually), you are both a little bit more relaxed, and drinking is almost always fun.

Here is the thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=178224

This is all true, but are there any sorts of dates that do not necessarily involve drinking that are still good for building attraction? We're talking dates #1-5, the early stages of getting to know a girl...

The reason I ask is because I've taken this girl out three times now, all three times to a different bar (F closed on the third date). I'm really not the drinking type, and I was trying to think of some other things to do that still can build attraction.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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JLW

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Oh, and in case you're wondering why I don't like going out to drink very much, it's because I am on a very strict workout/nutrition plan, and I prefer not to drink because drinking does absolutely no good for you when trying to build muscle...
 

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You dont have to take them anywhere if you don't want. If you've already ****ed her, just invite her over. If you really want more cook something for her and spend a little time on the setup (make it look fancy) or Take her to do crap you actually like. Look around at stuff to do in your area and pick 3 things you actually want to do. Then pick 2 of the 3 that would be good to do with her and do those 2 things. Personally, I am way too lazy to go dancing or I'm generally too cheap to buy drinks unless it's a gas station.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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