"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Good dates that do not necessarily involve drinking?

JLW

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There was a thread here about how going out to get a drink or two is a good idea for the first couple dates. The reasons why are pretty obvious. When drinking, you are in an exciting social setting (usually), you are both a little bit more relaxed, and drinking is almost always fun.

Here is the thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=178224

This is all true, but are there any sorts of dates that do not necessarily involve drinking that are still good for building attraction? We're talking dates #1-5, the early stages of getting to know a girl...

The reason I ask is because I've taken this girl out three times now, all three times to a different bar (F closed on the third date). I'm really not the drinking type, and I was trying to think of some other things to do that still can build attraction.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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JLW

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Oh, and in case you're wondering why I don't like going out to drink very much, it's because I am on a very strict workout/nutrition plan, and I prefer not to drink because drinking does absolutely no good for you when trying to build muscle...
 

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You dont have to take them anywhere if you don't want. If you've already ****ed her, just invite her over. If you really want more cook something for her and spend a little time on the setup (make it look fancy) or Take her to do crap you actually like. Look around at stuff to do in your area and pick 3 things you actually want to do. Then pick 2 of the 3 that would be good to do with her and do those 2 things. Personally, I am way too lazy to go dancing or I'm generally too cheap to buy drinks unless it's a gas station.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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