"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have plans on taking a hip hop class. Anyone have any experience taking a few classes. are there any other forms of dance you would recommend and why
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'd personally recommend taking salsa classes. It's a lot of kino and goofing around with girls, and you learn a dance that let's you practice your leading / dominant skills and something simple enough to learn a girl in 5 minutes.
 

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Salsa is good! But strangely the numbers I got from salsa class were all flakes. Dunno why, because everybody liked dancing with me :)
 

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Anytime of ballroom dancing. In most of these the guy not only leads but has to control which direction both you and the girl are dancing WITHOUT talking and only body movement and arm placement. I recommend starting with waltz because it is easy to learn and easy to teach to girls.
 

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ArcBound said:
Anytime of ballroom dancing. In most of these the guy not only leads but has to control which direction both you and the girl are dancing WITHOUT talking and only body movement and arm placement. I recommend starting with waltz because it is easy to learn and easy to teach to girls.
Depends which Waltz you're referring to. If you're talking about an English Waltz, then I'd say: Basic steps are ok, but it requires a lot of training to make it look good. If you're referring to the classical Vienna Waltz, then no. That dance is permanently turning and switching direction, throwing most people off in extreme dizzyness really quick.

I've danced ballroom / latin for 10 years now, with a 3 year break, and I've done some salsa. If you wanna show off some quick moves, salsa is the way to go. If you want to learn to do a bit more dancing that actually looks really good, go for ballroom / latin.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SandHawk said:
Depends which Waltz you're referring to. If you're talking about an English Waltz, then I'd say: Basic steps are ok, but it requires a lot of training to make it look good. If you're referring to the classical Vienna Waltz, then no.
True, but you don't need to master it to have fun with it and teach other girls which I've actually done when girls learned I knew ballroom dancing. Vienna Waltz is hard, I tried a year of it but you can't just do a Vienna Waltz with anyone only other people trained in it.

TBH I've tried a lot of ballroom dances but not really salsa, would you say its your favorite?
 

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Salsa + Ballroom Dancing == Chick Magnet.
 

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f283000 said:
I don't think you getting flaked on has anything to do with Salsa but more to do with your game than anything else.
Haha, probably true ;) I was just so surprised because at the class they seemed super interested and dancing really close, and were eager to give their numbers... I also made sure none saw me taking the number of another... well nevermind hehe
 
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