Good connection but couldn't get kiss on date, got shot down

[Dante420]

....Great connection. she thinks she's a lesbian. She said last time she kissed a guy she couldn't get that feeling in her stomach

 

[jophil28]

That is womanspeak for," I am not attracted to you, and the thought of kissing you does not excite me at all ."
A woman who tells you that she thinks that she is a lesbian is telling you that you and she are not going to hook up .

Dante - woman transmit messages to guys indirectly in a kind of code . I think that your receiver is broken.

How and why can you possibly believe that you and she had a "great connection" and then write that she declined/refused to kiss you and you "got shot down" . Can anyone else see the contradiction here ?

 

[SandHawk]

So? Stop bothering with this girl and move on to the next one. Seriously, if she believes that she is a lesbian, then there is absolutely no point in proceeding.

Why are you posting this? Are you trying to get feedback on this? Well, simple, next girl. What point is there in pursueing a girl that believes she is lesbian? Hell, she probably doesn't know squat about love, "that feeling in her stomach?"

 

[Kailex]

There was NO connection.
Unless you meant the FRIEND connection.

Then there was one.

She accepted to go out with you on a date and then when you tried to kiss her, she said she thinks she's a lesbian? Really?
After she had a chance to go out with you and realized she wasn't into you, she conviniently became a tweener lesbian.

I just hope you didn't spend any money on that date.

 

[Mike32ct]

....Great connection. she thinks she's a lesbian. She said last time she kissed a guy she couldn't get that feeling in her stomach

I've been on many dates where I thought we had a connection. We'd have a great conversation, some good laughs, etc. But at the end of the date, no kiss and no returned phone calls when I would try to follow up. Remember women are good at conversations, but it does not necessarily mean they are attracted. It's easy to be fooled and think there's a connection when they're isn't.

No kiss is strike one. The "lesbian" thing is strike two. Delete her number asap.

 

[iliketennis]

this isn't your diary

 

[Ease]

How is this different from her admitting that she used to have penis?

Why didnt you demand an explanation?

Dont let her get away with such nonsense talk.

 

[Dante420]

She let me touch her hand and her hair and stuff whenever I wanted and you wouldn't believe the connection we had in the restaurant. I got her talking about stuff she was passionate about..........I just need help verbally putting sexual escalation to the vibe before I go in for the kiss. She told me when she's ready for a kiss it'll happen so I didn't get a "never". She's the most different girl I ever been around, my looks alone don't need to do the talking. I can say the right thing and act the wrong way and likewise but I just need a lil help which is why I came here. I DID invest my money in showing this girl a good time

 

[jophil28]

You already have this woman on a pedestal. She has NO interest in you.
MY guess is that she will bloat her ego by playing with your emotions, and your obvious desperation, and then shoot you dead when she has had enough fun with you.

 

[stayfly]

you didn't get "shot down" you got a "not now"

just focus on building the connection and building some tension and excitement and you'll be able to kiss in at the right time

 

[Jeffst1980]

You already have this woman on a pedestal. She has NO interest in you.
MY guess is that she will bloat her ego by playing with your emotions, and your obvious desperation, and then shoot you dead when she has had enough fun with you.

^^^This.

If you want to have better success on dates, you need to change your attitude.

Stop trying to please them and worrying about whether they like you, and just have FUN. Learn to see women as a source of amusement, rather than forcing a "connection" with them.

Matter of fact, don't even take women on "dates," in the traditional sense. Save your money and just invite them to hang out with you while you go about your business. If you do everyday type things with them, they will NATURALLY feel more "connected" to you, because that is what boyfriends and girlfriends do---ordinary things!

I've asked girls to run errands with me many times as a "date," and all of them have been into it except the high maintenance ones. Why? Because it's DIFFERENT. It shows that you have no need to try to impress them or put on airs, which is what traditional dating is all about.

Drop this girl for now...why are you dating a lesbian?? Find a new one and treat her MUCH more casually.

 

[Diaforetikos]

BA BOW BOW BOWBOW BOW. Thats the sound of you getting shot down.

 

[Kailex]

You already have this woman on a pedestal. She has NO interest in you.
MY guess is that she will bloat her ego by playing with your emotions, and your obvious desperation, and then shoot you dead when she has had enough fun with you.

He already got mortally wounded with a shotgun-caliber buckshot.
She told him that she might be a lesbian.

There's no way she comes back from that to being in a relationship with him. He has a better chance with that doctor that gave him beer and lured him into his car at the beach a few months ago.

 

[nismo-4]

He already got mortally wounded with a shotgun-caliber buckshot.
She told him that she might be a lesbian.

There's no way she comes back from that to being in a relationship with him. He has a better chance with that doctor that gave him beer and lured him into his car at the beach a few months ago.

Damn Sage Kailex! Adding insult to injury!

Still I hope the OP listens to you and jophil. This girl just wasn't that into you.

Case closed. Move on.

 

[Crow]

Just give her the stone cold treatment and see if her lesbianness holds up against it.

 

[DonGorgon]

....Great connection. she thinks she's a lesbian. She said last time she kissed a guy she couldn't get that feeling in her stomach

Translation: im not physically attracted enough to you to kiss or F you.... I am kissing and Fing many other guys who are not you.