"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Good comebacks when older women point out the age difference?

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I get gig at bars and parties and meet older women (mid to late 20's to early 30's) that way. They've showed very high interest levels, but sometimes they pull back after they ask my age. I'm 23.

So what are good responses? Sometimes there's the wild 30 year old, sometimes only a couple years older, so what would be good in those situations.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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abcd_z

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Similar situation

I've been in a similar situation. I'm 17, and I asked a 19-year old out. She said that a 2-year difference was too much for her to surmount. :rolleyes: I'm still recovering from AFC behaviour myself, which was probably why I got rejected. Anyways, I'd also like to know something C+F I could have said in that situation.
 

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Age is just a number..

Remember it's not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. If you say the best response you can think of in a wierd way, your done.
 

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"SO you will get wrinkly first.......big deal"
 

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Make sure you convey that you are doing the selecting in the relationship, if not, you will come across as supplicating - so here's one:

her:"You know, I'm 10 years older than you."
you: "Right, I usually don't date older women, but i'll might make an exception in your case."

kairos
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Make sure you convey that you are doing the selecting in the relationship, if not, you will come across as supplicating - so here's one:

her:"You know, I'm 10 years older than you."
you: "Right, I usually don't date older women, but Il might make an exception in your case."

kairos
 

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Make sure you convey that you are doing the selecting in the relationship, if not, you will come across as supplicating - so here's one:

her:"You know, I'm 10 years older than you."
you: "Right, I usually don't date older women, but I might make an exception in your case."

kairos
 

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this 21yr old thought i looked 17

i told her really? is that cuz i'm young and virile?

she said "young and innocent ;)" and i gave her a scandelous grin

this one worked in my favour
 

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i'd say the best bet is to look older than your actual age?

almost everyone i run into assume that im in my early 20's.
then they're just shocked to hear what my real age is...i dont know if it's a disappointment or a surprise for them.

one time my professor asked if i wanted to go drinking, then i told him i was still underaged lol, shouldnt have told him.
 

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Heh, if she pulls back when you tell her your age, just say something along the lines of, "Why, does that indimidate you?"

Now we all know YOU'RE the one who's supposed to be intimidated at the older woman, but chances are if she's pulling back when you tell her your age, SHE is feeling a bit intimidated, too. But this puts you in control. :)

Older women are no different.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tell her that in a few decades you'll be 61 and she'll be 67, so it doesn't matter much, does it?
 

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"theres a 10 year age difference between us"
"youre too young"
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response: "yeah im guess you probably wouldnt be able to keep with me :)"
 
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