PeterNorthisawesome
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What's a good DJ comeback to "I miss you?"
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Good comeback to "I miss you"!?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Kev07
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lol...Luke!! said:
Would never say that to a girl i'm even remotely interested in
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That works obsidian...
I hate it when people ask for these generic responses, women are unique one response wont suit all. Some might get offended some might love it. DJ's should take time to get to know the girl they are talking to not spend all their time recalling the canned lines they learned.
I hate it when people ask for these generic responses, women are unique one response wont suit all. Some might get offended some might love it. DJ's should take time to get to know the girl they are talking to not spend all their time recalling the canned lines they learned.
Docs
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Her: I miss you
Me: Well, hit me next time?
Me: Well, hit me next time?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Prove it!"PeterNorthisawesome said:
Its not unDJish.Obsidian said:
(to everyone) Remember, if she says it first, and you simply repeat it back, then you're just saying the natural thing because she said it. One can take the wise cracks and tough-guy jerk thing so far, that it can eventually just become annoying to her and she might eventually not even take you seriously.
To be AFC is to say it first. That's what you don't want to do (IMO). Saying it first is to actually mean it, and expresses inherent neediness.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RogueWarrior
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How about "Okay, then let's get together this weekend."?
It's a command not a question. If she balks you say "Guess you don't really miss me then." If she says OK, plan something really cool and fun so she'll remember it.
It's a command not a question. If she balks you say "Guess you don't really miss me then." If she says OK, plan something really cool and fun so she'll remember it.
I would go with the "I miss me too." - depending on how much she can take a joke. If she seems to be the more serious type and you just said something really ****y/funny with her a moment ago, i would go with what Rogue suggested.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Eh, I wouldn't even give her the hint to plan something for the weekend. She's supposed to be a big girl, she should be able to suggest something herself.RogueWarrior said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Charm&Style
Master Don Juan
if its in person you can try what i did and hopefully pull it off with great success.
girl: i miss you
me: (goes in and kisses her)
me: ...i didnt know any other way of shutting you the fvck up
girl: i miss you
me: (goes in and kisses her)
me: ...i didnt know any other way of shutting you the fvck up
If she says she misses you, it doesn't really matter what you say because she's obviously into you, as long as you don't be a wussbag. You could say
"Prove it" and pull her in for a hug and a kiss.
"I know, I'm so 'missable'".
"I've missed you, too, with every shot so far".
"I've missed you, too. Uh, what's your name again?" They'll laugh at this one, guaranteed!
"Prove it" and pull her in for a hug and a kiss.
"I know, I'm so 'missable'".
"I've missed you, too, with every shot so far".
"I've missed you, too. Uh, what's your name again?" They'll laugh at this one, guaranteed!
PeterNorthisawesome
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Totally forgot to add that the girl is my ex and I haven't seen her in 3 years.
PeterNorthisawesome
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What's wrong with make up sex? I like it when girls use me as a sex toy.azanon said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.