PeterNorthisawesome
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What's a good DJ comeback to "I miss you?"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
lol...Luke!! said:"And Who Are You Again"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"Prove it!"PeterNorthisawesome said:What's a good DJ comeback to "I miss you?"
Its not unDJish.Obsidian said:erm, maybe it's really unDJish of me, but I usually just tell them I did miss them too (even if I didn't)
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
We have a winner.RogueWarrior said:How about "Okay, then let's get together this weekend."?
It's a command not a question. If she balks you say "Guess you don't really miss me then." If she says OK, plan something really cool and fun so she'll remember it.
Eh, I wouldn't even give her the hint to plan something for the weekend. She's supposed to be a big girl, she should be able to suggest something herself.RogueWarrior said:How about "Okay, then let's get together this weekend."?
It's a command not a question. If she balks you say "Guess you don't really miss me then." If she says OK, plan something really cool and fun so she'll remember it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Doh! Lock the thread! :kick:PeterNorthisawesome said:Totally forgot to add that the girl is my ex and I haven't seen her in 3 years.
What's wrong with make up sex? I like it when girls use me as a sex toy.azanon said:Doh! Lock the thread! :kick:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.