"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Good comeback to "I miss you"!?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"I miss you too (insert name that isn't hers)"

Obviously do it jokingly
 

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erm, maybe it's really unDJish of me, but I usually just tell them I did miss them too (even if I didn't)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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That works obsidian...

I hate it when people ask for these generic responses, women are unique one response wont suit all. Some might get offended some might love it. DJ's should take time to get to know the girl they are talking to not spend all their time recalling the canned lines they learned.
 

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Obsidian said:
erm, maybe it's really unDJish of me, but I usually just tell them I did miss them too (even if I didn't)
Its not unDJish.

(to everyone) Remember, if she says it first, and you simply repeat it back, then you're just saying the natural thing because she said it. One can take the wise cracks and tough-guy jerk thing so far, that it can eventually just become annoying to her and she might eventually not even take you seriously.

To be AFC is to say it first. That's what you don't want to do (IMO). Saying it first is to actually mean it, and expresses inherent neediness.
 

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Well, if you DO miss her back, don't tell her, otherwise the entire facade you've built will crumble.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How about "Okay, then let's get together this weekend."?
It's a command not a question. If she balks you say "Guess you don't really miss me then." If she says OK, plan something really cool and fun so she'll remember it.
 

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RogueWarrior said:
How about "Okay, then let's get together this weekend."?
It's a command not a question. If she balks you say "Guess you don't really miss me then." If she says OK, plan something really cool and fun so she'll remember it.
We have a winner.
 

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I would go with the "I miss me too." - depending on how much she can take a joke. If she seems to be the more serious type and you just said something really ****y/funny with her a moment ago, i would go with what Rogue suggested.
 

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RogueWarrior said:
How about "Okay, then let's get together this weekend."?
It's a command not a question. If she balks you say "Guess you don't really miss me then." If she says OK, plan something really cool and fun so she'll remember it.
Eh, I wouldn't even give her the hint to plan something for the weekend. She's supposed to be a big girl, she should be able to suggest something herself.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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if its in person you can try what i did and hopefully pull it off with great success.

girl: i miss you
me: (goes in and kisses her)
me: ...i didnt know any other way of shutting you the fvck up
 

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If she says she misses you, it doesn't really matter what you say because she's obviously into you, as long as you don't be a wussbag. You could say

"Prove it" and pull her in for a hug and a kiss.
"I know, I'm so 'missable'".
"I've missed you, too, with every shot so far".
"I've missed you, too. Uh, what's your name again?" They'll laugh at this one, guaranteed!
 

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PeterNorthisawesome said:
Totally forgot to add that the girl is my ex and I haven't seen her in 3 years.
Doh! Lock the thread! :kick:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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