CoolRunning
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So...your recommendations?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Good "come over and watch a movie" movies?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
WC2
Master Don Juan
First of all movies, should only be done once in awhile (every 7-8 dates max). You really can't go wrong with a movie if you are a DJ... it's not about the movie it's about you and her. If you are relying on a movie to bring you two together, then you're hopeless. Sometimes it's a good idea to get a movie you know a lot about (enlighten her with something you know).
Wubbman
Don Juan
"Platoon" by Oliver Stone. It will work everytime.
In all seriousness, I would find out what type of movies she likes. You don't necessarily need to watch chick flicks everytime, but I think comedies would be popular with most women. Romantic comedies mixed in with action comedies seems like a winner.
In all seriousness, I would find out what type of movies she likes. You don't necessarily need to watch chick flicks everytime, but I think comedies would be popular with most women. Romantic comedies mixed in with action comedies seems like a winner.
chaosphere
Don Juan
Concert DVDs have been a staple in my repetoire for years.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Movies are for kids!!!! Oh yeah, you are kids!!!
I guess in-home movies have become the modern hor excuse to be alone with her pimp!! Hors know this and they are expecting the pimp to make the move that he has been genetically wired to do!!
I'll bet you that when she comes over to your place that her panties match her bra!!!! Hors know what is going to happen!! Any takers???
I guess in-home movies have become the modern hor excuse to be alone with her pimp!! Hors know this and they are expecting the pimp to make the move that he has been genetically wired to do!!
I'll bet you that when she comes over to your place that her panties match her bra!!!! Hors know what is going to happen!! Any takers???
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CoolRunning said:
New wave hookers II.
Catchy flick and some decent acting.
In my honest opinion, try to make sure its a bad movie. You don't want something very engrossing or you'll have a harder time phase-shifting into intimacy. All the movie is is a pre-text for isolation anyway. If she wants to be alone with you, she'll take the bait, no matter how terrible the movie is.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I agree.
I got away with watching movies like American Psycho and Requiem For A Dream.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I avoid movies unless we're already intimate. Trying to use a movie to get a woman in the mood who isn't already into you via a movie is usually a fools errand.
I have found that watching some of the "reality shows" such as the Real World helps as a catalyst to find out about your girl and what drives her. Shows like that is a emotional time bomb not only for the actors but also for most people who watch the show.
Watch your girl to see how she reacts to the show and listen to what she says. Notice when she sits back and crosses her arms, notice when she sits on the edge of the couch listening intently. These are signs of what ticks her off and what inspires her respectively.
Finally, if you really want to get into her head, during the commercials ask her "So what do you think about that?" Most times she'll tell you in no uncertain terms. The problem would just be getting her to stop.
I have found that watching some of the "reality shows" such as the Real World helps as a catalyst to find out about your girl and what drives her. Shows like that is a emotional time bomb not only for the actors but also for most people who watch the show.
Watch your girl to see how she reacts to the show and listen to what she says. Notice when she sits back and crosses her arms, notice when she sits on the edge of the couch listening intently. These are signs of what ticks her off and what inspires her respectively.
Finally, if you really want to get into her head, during the commercials ask her "So what do you think about that?" Most times she'll tell you in no uncertain terms. The problem would just be getting her to stop.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.