KneghtRyder
Senior Don Juan
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm pretty much the same way. I feel it's best just to try to enjoy a person for who they are, rather than objectifying them into some role or expectation. And you know what's up when it comes to sex with girls that respect you and know you for who you really are.comic_relief said:good article and surmises my way of going after women. I come in as a person trying to make a genuine human relationship, and if I deem her worthy of a relationship it is time to make her jump the hoops. If she manages to jump the hoops, which 90% of women don't make it through (long term relationship with a brain and her own opinions). Then I will give her a relationships, while the rest are good for sex or a friendship and that is it.
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