"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Gonna wing for my incel bud im SF tonight

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You’re a good man for trying.

Have you considered talking to female friend and seeing if you can set something up for him with a friend? Like just someone that’ll agree to be talk to him and asses him from the female side? Just to get him some courage?
Over the years. Several of my GFs have offered/tried to help. He seems terrified of women though, so it really hasn’t worked.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wow. You’re a good man for trying. Years huh?

Is he an engineer/brogrammer type? Age? Divorced raped?

p.s. he needs to do some public speaking type stuff, start with the basics to build confidence? Maybe Toastmasters? Or an SFCC public speaking class? Depending on your time commitment to him maybe offer to do it together?

Over the years. Several of my GFs have offered/tried to help. He seems terrified of women though, so it really hasn’t worked.
 

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Yeah that's a shame really...I still like the effort you put into this.

Bigger underlying issues that we men dont communicate and talk about these problems. In war and love it's s every man for himself. Women are more understanding amongst each other, that's why we as men all know you might have to run game on her fatty friend as well. If your male friend catches a ONS , it's a handshake and see you tomorrow buddy!


Is there a bigger problem at play? Does he actually want to talk to women but for some reason is unable to do it? Recently broken up?
Social Anxiety.
 

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Wow. You’re a good man for trying. Years huh?

Is he an engineer/brogrammer type? Age? Divorced raped?

p.s. he needs to do some public speaking type stuff, start with the basics to build confidence? Maybe Toastmasters? Or an SFCC public speaking class? Depending on your time commitment to him maybe offer to do it together?
Nerdy middle aged. Not DR’d but got Oneitis bad & is down on that.
He actually spiffed himself up this time. So. Maybe he’s starting to care.
 

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[QUOTE="Pierce.Manhammer, post: 2968817,

p.s. he needs to do some public speaking type stuff, start with the basics to build confidence? Maybe Toastmasters? Or an SFCC public speaking class? Depending on your time commitment to him maybe offer to do it together?
[/QUOTE]

He won’t do that. Sadly.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yeah that's a shame really...I still like the effort you put into this.

Bigger underlying issues that we men dont communicate and talk about these problems. In war and love it's s every man for himself. Women are more understanding amongst each other, that's why we as men all know you might have to run game on her fatty friend as well. If your male friend catches a ONS , it's a handshake and see you tomorrow buddy!
I’d probably do him the most favor by hanging back in the shadows. He heightmogs me. But I facemog him to Jupiter & back. He gets ignored when we’re together. I think I could initiate things & then fade.
 

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[QUOTE="Pierce.Manhammer, post: 2968817,

p.s. he needs to do some public speaking type stuff, start with the basics to build confidence? Maybe Toastmasters? Or an SFCC public speaking class? Depending on your time commitment to him maybe offer to do it together?
He won’t do that. Sadly.
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Again...until he cares about himself and his situation more than you do, it won't matter.

This is the male version of trying to be Captain Save a Hoe...you can't save a person from them self no matter how badly you may want to.
 

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He won’t do that. Sadly.
Again...until he cares about himself and his situation more than you do, it won't matter.

This is the male version of trying to be Captain Save a Hoe...you can't save a person from them self no matter how badly you may want to.
[/QUOTE]
Captain save a Bro
 
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