Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Gonna wing for my incel bud im SF tonight

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You’re a good man for trying.

Have you considered talking to female friend and seeing if you can set something up for him with a friend? Like just someone that’ll agree to be talk to him and asses him from the female side? Just to get him some courage?
Over the years. Several of my GFs have offered/tried to help. He seems terrified of women though, so it really hasn’t worked.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wow. You’re a good man for trying. Years huh?

Is he an engineer/brogrammer type? Age? Divorced raped?

p.s. he needs to do some public speaking type stuff, start with the basics to build confidence? Maybe Toastmasters? Or an SFCC public speaking class? Depending on your time commitment to him maybe offer to do it together?

Over the years. Several of my GFs have offered/tried to help. He seems terrified of women though, so it really hasn’t worked.
 

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Yeah that's a shame really...I still like the effort you put into this.

Bigger underlying issues that we men dont communicate and talk about these problems. In war and love it's s every man for himself. Women are more understanding amongst each other, that's why we as men all know you might have to run game on her fatty friend as well. If your male friend catches a ONS , it's a handshake and see you tomorrow buddy!


Is there a bigger problem at play? Does he actually want to talk to women but for some reason is unable to do it? Recently broken up?
Social Anxiety.
 

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Wow. You’re a good man for trying. Years huh?

Is he an engineer/brogrammer type? Age? Divorced raped?

p.s. he needs to do some public speaking type stuff, start with the basics to build confidence? Maybe Toastmasters? Or an SFCC public speaking class? Depending on your time commitment to him maybe offer to do it together?
Nerdy middle aged. Not DR’d but got Oneitis bad & is down on that.
He actually spiffed himself up this time. So. Maybe he’s starting to care.
 

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[QUOTE="Pierce.Manhammer, post: 2968817,

p.s. he needs to do some public speaking type stuff, start with the basics to build confidence? Maybe Toastmasters? Or an SFCC public speaking class? Depending on your time commitment to him maybe offer to do it together?
[/QUOTE]

He won’t do that. Sadly.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah that's a shame really...I still like the effort you put into this.

Bigger underlying issues that we men dont communicate and talk about these problems. In war and love it's s every man for himself. Women are more understanding amongst each other, that's why we as men all know you might have to run game on her fatty friend as well. If your male friend catches a ONS , it's a handshake and see you tomorrow buddy!
I’d probably do him the most favor by hanging back in the shadows. He heightmogs me. But I facemog him to Jupiter & back. He gets ignored when we’re together. I think I could initiate things & then fade.
 

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[QUOTE="Pierce.Manhammer, post: 2968817,

p.s. he needs to do some public speaking type stuff, start with the basics to build confidence? Maybe Toastmasters? Or an SFCC public speaking class? Depending on your time commitment to him maybe offer to do it together?
He won’t do that. Sadly.
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Again...until he cares about himself and his situation more than you do, it won't matter.

This is the male version of trying to be Captain Save a Hoe...you can't save a person from them self no matter how badly you may want to.
 

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He won’t do that. Sadly.
Again...until he cares about himself and his situation more than you do, it won't matter.

This is the male version of trying to be Captain Save a Hoe...you can't save a person from them self no matter how badly you may want to.
[/QUOTE]
Captain save a Bro
 
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