"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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gonna call her for the first time tomorrow...bullet points:

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alright so im gonna give this chick a call that I met... when I left her the other night I invited her out wednesday night for my friends and her friends to go to Dave and Busters... so tomorrow im gonna call and re-confirm the outing.... I asked her if she needed a ride and she said Yes, but then again I really don't want to pick her up so I'm hoping her friends are going to take care of her there......

here is what i have so far in the phone convo:

hey wassup this is monty...

you still down for tonite?

are your friends going too?

so you have a ride to go there right?

yea it'll be fun tonite....

well im gonna let you go now... call me up if you need a ride, if not i'll see u
there... alright... bye

Anything to add/remove? I just want to keep it short n sweet.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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That is way too much, and too insecure.

Call her and tell her you will pick her up at 8PM (or whatever), and to wear that dress you like. ;)

Then don't call her again until you are on your way.
 
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Way way too much. Sentences like that gives her the opportunity to actually think over and create doubts.

ONE LINE!
 
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yea but i kinda dont want to pick her up... isnt it weird if i just called her and be like "what time am i gonna pick you up?" i mean ive only known her for a few hours.
 
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You don't ask what time to pick her up, you TELL her what time you are picking her up. Stop acting like a little girl.

If you don't want to pick her up... don't pick her up! Why post a thread about a chick you don't want to pick up? You don't pick her up = you aren't that interested.

Stop being wishy washy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TOO MUCH THINKING, SON!

It kills.
 
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Like you said, you only met this girl for a few hours. Do you want a nervous phone convo or a date? A date right! CUT TO THE CHASE.

If you still don't know what to say, go with Iqqi's first post.
 
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Just call and confirm that your meeting at X time. Don't mention anything about the ride. Assume that she will get their with her friends. If she doesn't have a ride, let her bring it up. If thats the case, then pick her up, its not the end of the world.
 
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