"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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gold mine.

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earlier this year, at a club me and a mate approaches these 2 girls who were looking at us, they invited us to continue the night with them at another club, they were on a bus trip around the city.

we went on the bus trip, went back to there place. the bus was a gold mine, about 5 guys on it and 15 girls.

i made good friends with 2 girls on the bus. HBawesome and HBcuddly.

we hung out a few times, clubs/parties, always drinking. HBawesome just had her birthday and we went on another bus trip around the city. HBcuddly said "would you like to have regular casual sex with me?" i sorta played it off, but left it open.

most of these chicks are pretty good, say an 8 outa 10 average. but hb cuddly is probably a 7.

i previously hooked up with a HB8 friend of hers at a party, and on the most recent encounter was laying very heavey kino on a new HB8 and she really enjoyed it, however, i was too drunk to act on that -hard to imagine.

question is, should i take HBcuddly up on the casual sex? or should i stick it out, and try for the hotter ones in the group? where i have a tonne of social proof, they all like me, and know me as a fun guy.

and HBawesome really likes me, just as a friend, but she sorta leads the group, and is probably the closest thing to a 10 that i know.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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well, if HBawesome likes you as a friend, then thats unlikely to change, even less so if you take up her friend on casual sex (unless of course HBawesome is unaware and remains being unaware of the arrangement). Hey, if it was me, i'd take the sex. But maybe you have higher standards than I do. I would still do a 7. It would depend though.
 

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never heard a woman say this

HBcuddly said "would you like to have regular casual sex with me?"
Even if she was drunk, what woman in her right mind would say this?
 

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Re: never heard a woman say this

Originally posted by Ol'BlueEyes
Even if she was drunk, what woman in her right mind would say this?
she wasn't overly drunk. it was early in the night.
but i guess she said it because she feels comfortable with me, and wasn't scared of rejection.
she knows that i'm a fun and sexual guy. not overly choosey in women.
i don't see her as slutty because of it.
i see her enlightened.
 

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well if you keep it on the down low, you might still be able to get with some of the other chicks

anyway the seven likes you. You are waiting to get with an eight or nine who MAY like you, but clearly the 7 likes you and will screw you, so why not take it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by isotope
well if you keep it on the down low, you might still be able to get with some of the other chicks

anyway the seven likes you. You are waiting to get with an eight or nine who MAY like you, but clearly the 7 likes you and will screw you, so why not take it
yeah.. i think i'll have to just f*ck her..

the way i see it, i can meet a new HB8 or even HB9 anytime i want...

i just lose the social proof i have.
 
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