"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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gold mine.

quest

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earlier this year, at a club me and a mate approaches these 2 girls who were looking at us, they invited us to continue the night with them at another club, they were on a bus trip around the city.

we went on the bus trip, went back to there place. the bus was a gold mine, about 5 guys on it and 15 girls.

i made good friends with 2 girls on the bus. HBawesome and HBcuddly.

we hung out a few times, clubs/parties, always drinking. HBawesome just had her birthday and we went on another bus trip around the city. HBcuddly said "would you like to have regular casual sex with me?" i sorta played it off, but left it open.

most of these chicks are pretty good, say an 8 outa 10 average. but hb cuddly is probably a 7.

i previously hooked up with a HB8 friend of hers at a party, and on the most recent encounter was laying very heavey kino on a new HB8 and she really enjoyed it, however, i was too drunk to act on that -hard to imagine.

question is, should i take HBcuddly up on the casual sex? or should i stick it out, and try for the hotter ones in the group? where i have a tonne of social proof, they all like me, and know me as a fun guy.

and HBawesome really likes me, just as a friend, but she sorta leads the group, and is probably the closest thing to a 10 that i know.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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well, if HBawesome likes you as a friend, then thats unlikely to change, even less so if you take up her friend on casual sex (unless of course HBawesome is unaware and remains being unaware of the arrangement). Hey, if it was me, i'd take the sex. But maybe you have higher standards than I do. I would still do a 7. It would depend though.
 

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never heard a woman say this

HBcuddly said "would you like to have regular casual sex with me?"
Even if she was drunk, what woman in her right mind would say this?
 

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Re: never heard a woman say this

Originally posted by Ol'BlueEyes
Even if she was drunk, what woman in her right mind would say this?
she wasn't overly drunk. it was early in the night.
but i guess she said it because she feels comfortable with me, and wasn't scared of rejection.
she knows that i'm a fun and sexual guy. not overly choosey in women.
i don't see her as slutty because of it.
i see her enlightened.
 

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well if you keep it on the down low, you might still be able to get with some of the other chicks

anyway the seven likes you. You are waiting to get with an eight or nine who MAY like you, but clearly the 7 likes you and will screw you, so why not take it
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by isotope
well if you keep it on the down low, you might still be able to get with some of the other chicks

anyway the seven likes you. You are waiting to get with an eight or nine who MAY like you, but clearly the 7 likes you and will screw you, so why not take it
yeah.. i think i'll have to just f*ck her..

the way i see it, i can meet a new HB8 or even HB9 anytime i want...

i just lose the social proof i have.
 
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