"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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going to prom with a girl way out of my league.

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Good god, it just hit me, I am screwed. This girl is easily a high 9/10 and I am going to prom with her. It's in 1 week, saturday apr 16th. We're both seniors...anyone have any tips for me to help me survive the night? (and the week leading up to the prom)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't see how you're screwed. You can't be too out of her league if she likes you enough to go with you. But one tip would be not to treat her like she is out of your league or you will convince her that she is and it can only go downhill once she believes that.
 

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Originally posted by eggnawgkid
I don't see how you're screwed. You can't be too out of her league if she likes you enough to go with you. But one tip would be not to treat her like she is out of your league or you will convince her that she is and it can only go downhill once she believes that.
Alright...Thanks. I will definitely repeat this over and over. I'm going to try to convince myself she is ugly.

Another Question, how should I handle it if she goes off and dances with another guy? Thanks man.
 

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Originally posted by Best friends? NAY
If she starts dancing with other guys, then go dance with other girls.
Woot can't wait...if this happens should I try to meet up with her later (I.e...try to dance with her after a few dances and try to make it as natural as possible?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i can't believe you really think your screwed

dude, she agreed to go with you. meaning she likes you. meaning that you should be looking forward to this as potentially the best night of your life. but don't worry about trying to make it this way. just HAVE FUN!

if things go well, let her touch your penis :D
 

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thanks mr. i'll just keep in mind "have a good time" and hopefully it will take care of the rest. Anyways, I'm going with a friend who is one of the funniest people I've ever met so hopefully he will help lighten the mood and help me break the ice.
 

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excellent

have fun with your friend, but don't forget your date :)
 

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Originally posted by teencraft
Alright...Thanks. I will definitely repeat this over and over. I'm going to try to convince myself she is ugly.

Another Question, how should I handle it if she goes off and dances with another guy? Thanks man.
Maybe instead of convinving yourself thats she ugly you can get in your head that you can roll with the pretty ones?
 

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Originally posted by Mr. Debonaire
excellent

have fun with your friend, but don't forget your date :)
Hah, good plan. Thanks.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by Keasbey Nights
Maybe instead of convinving yourself thats she ugly you can get in your head that you can roll with the pretty ones?
Alright, I'm going to spend the next week on this message board trying to reinforce this into my mind.
 

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Read the title of your post again. Sounds like someone needs to fukken grow a pair.

She's going with you and she is the luckiest girl at the school because of this, never forget that. You wont dance with other girls as a result of her dancing with guys, it's easy to see whats happening there. Instead, you will take the power and dance with other girls first. If she does dance with other guys, you wont care, you not ****en tied together by the leg.

Most importantly, have a good fukken time and dont spend your whole night analysing ****.
 

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Originally posted by Sammo
Read the title of your post again. Sounds like someone needs to fukken grow a pair.

She's going with you and she is the luckiest girl at the school because of this, never forget that. You wont dance with other girls as a result of her dancing with guys, it's easy to see whats happening there. Instead, you will take the power and dance with other girls first. If she does dance with other guys, you wont care, you not ****en tied together by the leg.

Most importantly, have a good fukken time and dont spend your whole night analysing ****.
thanks sammo I'll read this a few times before saturday.
 

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Good god, it just hit me, I am screwed. This girl is easily a high 9/10 and I am going to prom with her. It's in 1 week, saturday apr 16th. We're both seniors...anyone have any tips for me to help me survive the night? (and the week leading up to the prom)
Hmm. From the looks of it you seem to feel as if this girl is TO GOOD for you. If you go in with THAT mindset, you have already lost.....BIGTIME.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Sammo
Instead, you will take the power and dance with other girls first. If she does dance with other guys, you wont care, you not ****en tied together by the leg.
Great f'cken advice. If you know she'll do anything to you, do it first.
 

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She's not out of your league. Don't ever think a girl is out of your league.

Just go into the dance looking to have a great time.
 

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Originally posted by Bling
If you know she'll do anything to you, do it first.
Almost there but still the wrong mindset. That approach still gives the girls actions or POSSIBLE actions some power on your actions.
Instead, do what the fuk you want.
 

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thanks all I've calmed down from yesterday so I'll just take it how it comes.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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