That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yep it was fun that night...Park is usually hit or miss...guywhoneedshelp said:Another member of this site brought me to a place on 10th avenue and 17th street called "THE PARK"
Check out www.theparknyc.com
It was a great place, I had a lot of fun, and met a lot of real women. A lot of asians though, which are not my type. But a great place where a lot of nice people get together and socialize. Show up before 9PM, and on Friday and Saturday the upstairs opens at 12AM and it's crazy up there. See the penthouse on the website.
I agree they are like that, but if you can't beat 'em you might as well join 'em. They are getting nailed by somebody, it could be you. After dealing with their b!tchiness you'll find ways to get them smiling.Overcomer9 said:didnt really like new york when i was there. you guy game women there? i found the women to be really cold and standoffish...they didn't even make eye contact most of the time. truth be told, most people didn't..maybe it's just a regional thing?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.