"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Going to her dorm Saturday

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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next!
 

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You can fallow @CMNILS87 advice or if it were me i would cancel on her because you are a realy busy guy. Really be busy with somthing that has more value to you.
Brilliant....

Chick: "Hey why dont you come hang out with me..."
You: "I'm too busy pretending I'm busy...I'm just going to stay at home and whack off 5 times instead...but I really got your hamster spinning didnt I???"

Some of the advice on here has gotten so far out into left field with the "appearances" nonsense its getting unreal...

The common sense answer is you go over there and you try to bang her. No need for anything else to be happening. This is simply called taking advantage of opportunities that appear in front of you. Anyone who is good with women strikes at these opportunities when they come up. No need for this "she has to come to me, I can't go to her" silliness. That sh!t is beyond irrelevant in this context.

Context...more people need to undersatnd context.

Done.
 

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Brilliant....

Chick: "Hey why dont you come hang out with me..."
You: "I'm too busy pretending I'm busy...I'm just going to stay at home and whack off 5 times instead...but I really got your hamster spinning didnt I???"

Some of the advice on here has gotten so far out into left field with the "appearances" nonsense its getting unreal...

The common sense answer is you go over there and you try to bang her. No need for anything else to be happening. This is simply called taking advantage of opportunities that appear in front of you. Anyone who is good with women strikes at these opportunities when they come up. No need for this "she has to come to me, I can't go to her" silliness. That sh!t is beyond irrelevant in this context.

Context...more people need to undersatnd context.

Done.
Well, there are more important things in life than the casual lay, like...self respect? Or dignity? This is exactly why women get spoiled, cause of guys like you who are OK with being told no and then are ready to go when they're told yes. You think I bang a woman when she wants me to? There are cases where I don't want to? What is he, her *****? He jumps on the opportunity of what? Is it now suddenly an opportunity to bang a chick? He can bang tens of chicks if he changes his mindset OR he can bang this one and continue to be dragged around by women on a regular basis LOL

It is amazing to see some of the oldest members in here telling guys to act like the most important thing in life is to get a piece of ass. She does not DESERVE him going there. She is leading the situation, not him. THAT is the problem.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, there are more important things in life than the casual lay, like...self respect? Or dignity? This is exactly why women get spoiled, cause of guys like you who are OK with being told no and then are ready to go when they're told yes. You think I bang a woman when she wants me to? There are cases where I don't want to? What is he, her *****? He jumps on the opportunity of what? Is it now suddenly an opportunity to bang a chick? He can bang tens of chicks if he changes his mindset OR he can bang this one and continue to be dragged around by women on a regular basis LOL

It is amazing to see some of the oldest members in here telling guys to act like the most important thing in life is to get a piece of ass. She does not DESERVE him going there. She is leading the situation, not him. THAT is the problem.
yep, orbiters
 

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Well, there are more important things in life than the casual lay, like...self respect? Or dignity? This is exactly why women get spoiled, cause of guys like you who are OK with being told no and then are ready to go when they're told yes. You think I bang a woman when she wants me to? There are cases where I don't want to? What is he, her *****? He jumps on the opportunity of what? Is it now suddenly an opportunity to bang a chick? He can bang tens of chicks if he changes his mindset OR he can bang this one and continue to be dragged around by women on a regular basis LOL

It is amazing to see some of the oldest members in here telling guys to act like the most important thing in life is to get a piece of ass. She does not DESERVE him going there. She is leading the situation, not him. THAT is the problem.
You would be so hung up on that 6 momths later?? Seriously? Dude, I could care less.

If you need to show her your leading by forcing her to come to you you simply arent leading very well.

Yes we are telling him to go handle his business because we aren't reading 100 things into this like a woman does and getring our panties all bunched up over irrelevant stuff. Opportunity knocks, take advantage of it.
 

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I am not reading into anything, man. If this was a company that blew him off a year ago and they came knocking at the door to hire him now, I would tell him to go snap that chance. That is an opportunity. But making banging a chick to be an opportunity? I can bet you that she either wants to make another guy jealous or wants to rebound with this guy cause her boyfriend let her go. Mark my words. He can go whatever he wants as he will anyways, but my gut feeling tells me this is not the kind of situation this man needs to be involved in to advance in his life and in his self building as a man. You guys put way too much weight into *****.
 

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No marmel like usual your wrong again...you see reread.
Girl previously had this girl cancelling on him. Right? Hes chasing...follow along here super brain.
What i offered was to find more value in his life. Not make this girl priority. Get it now?
Girl chase man= better fullfilled man with other things going on.

OP advice.
Theres certain individuals you want to avoid in here tgat are not out for you becoming your best man...the true dj way. Learn to avoid there advice to get you the quick high.
Lay your foundation on the rock...and tgat rock is YOU. Not her.
Lol..yes, avoid the advice of people who actually get laid and give REAL WORLD advice not some sh!t they read in some book or heard some guy talk aout in some video. or is based on some nonsensical theory. Sounds about right.

The further along the path you get the more you'll find that all these "rules" are just a hindrance more than a help.
 
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If she is at least a HB8, bring her over to my place. I'll show you what to do! ;-)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Self respect is no rule, it's a character feature of developing or great people.
 

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My friend that is a really sad reply. Really
Almost as sad as guys who have no ability to understand context and blindly spout bullsh!t that is irrelevant in situational context.
 

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It's OK, marmel75. We can agree to disagree. In this kind of situation, I have acted and will continue to act this way. This girl, had it been my own personal situation, she would have ruined my initial feeling and when that's ruined, I cannot get it up for her, not 1 month later, not 3 months later, not 1 year later. But that is me. This guy has gotten both our points of view, he can choose himself now.

I see this as a matter of self respect. He should have so many prospects going on that he doesn't give a fack about this girl.
 

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Keep in mind the end game fellas as well as OP's past up until now. If he smashes, who really wins?.?. He's already been frustrated and having a hard time closing. Climbing this hill and literally planting his flag could be just what he needs to get past this and build some momentum. One in the hand, is better than two in the bush, now more than ever right now.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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