"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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pingpongz

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You guys got any tips for conversation etc ?

Im just going for a laugh with a couple mates and we'll see what happens ...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Gangster Of Love

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Just be aware that even if you do have several matches, most of them are flaky and tend to not respond to your initial contact after the event. Seems like getting the validation of getting picked and liked by many men is just good enough for them. So make sure you make a strong impression and get them to comit (in their head) to talking to you again.

Good experience for quickly sparking some interest and attraction. It will help your communication skills a lot.
 

Viking25

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I've been to one of those. 80% of the women were fat and ugly. The rest were in HB8+ scale however. So I guess every man picked hotties...
It was a waste of time and money.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bigdavis

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Get one of your buddies to go with you and tell the chicks you didn't even want to come but you're helping your buddy. They will eat that **** up.

One time I dressed really nice and told all the chicks that I didn't want to come but the girl running the even needed some people to come because not enough were signing up so I was just doing her a favor. Got laid by a hot redhead who was there as support for her ugly friend by doing that. It helped that i happened to know the girl running the event though :cool:
 

DonJuan11

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Viking25 said:
I've been to one of those. 80% of the women were fat and ugly. The rest were in HB8+ scale however. So I guess every man picked hotties...
Have you been before?
 

pingpongz

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Viking25 said:
I've been to one of those. 80% of the women were fat and ugly. The rest were in HB8+ scale however. So I guess every man picked hotties...
It was a waste of time and money.

this is free and organised by the college i go to so nothing but student gonna be there ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Rhizzle

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Anyone know where you can find out about these events?

I considered going to one if I found one, AND I had a friend of mine, out of the blue, mention to me a couple weeks ago, thta he'd go if he knew where there was one at.

Any ideas?
 

Bible_Belt

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I would say just act like you don't care. The other guys are trying to have nervous and boring little mini job interviews. You should be only trying to have a laugh about something. As with any c&f, a laugh at her expense is ok, as long as it is light hearted and about some trivial thing. Don't call a tall chick an Amazon or a chubby girl fat, but you can rip on her purse or shoes a little. Or make fun of anything else you find funny. If all you care about is having fun in that moment, it projects value on your part.
 

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What's worked for me (yeah, I've done this too) is to run the interview process yourself. Understand what the event is about, conversation. The bad thing is that more times than not the majority of the people there aren't good conversationalist so unless you drive the interaction yourself it's like pushing a boulder uphill.

I say come in with some good questions. Not any of the "What do you do," "where did you grow up" boring BS either. Have at least five creative questions, nothing too intellectual but ones that don't typically come up in conversation, basically qualify her right then and there (be confident, not ****y; it'll scare them away). Here's another reason why it will work, if you drive the interview you can answer your own questions too in order for her to get to know you. This way you won't go in worrying about her asking you something off the wall that you weren't prepared to answer.

Be a man and take control. It'll make you stand out from the the AFC and make you memorable. You'll be surprised how many women say that they're interested in you, even the ones you weren't interested in yourself.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Black Casanova said:
bump...I'm interested in question suggestions
What do you talk about when you're qualifying?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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