"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Going speed dating next week

pingpongz

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You guys got any tips for conversation etc ?

Im just going for a laugh with a couple mates and we'll see what happens ...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Gangster Of Love

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Just be aware that even if you do have several matches, most of them are flaky and tend to not respond to your initial contact after the event. Seems like getting the validation of getting picked and liked by many men is just good enough for them. So make sure you make a strong impression and get them to comit (in their head) to talking to you again.

Good experience for quickly sparking some interest and attraction. It will help your communication skills a lot.
 

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I've been to one of those. 80% of the women were fat and ugly. The rest were in HB8+ scale however. So I guess every man picked hotties...
It was a waste of time and money.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Get one of your buddies to go with you and tell the chicks you didn't even want to come but you're helping your buddy. They will eat that **** up.

One time I dressed really nice and told all the chicks that I didn't want to come but the girl running the even needed some people to come because not enough were signing up so I was just doing her a favor. Got laid by a hot redhead who was there as support for her ugly friend by doing that. It helped that i happened to know the girl running the event though :cool:
 

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Viking25 said:
I've been to one of those. 80% of the women were fat and ugly. The rest were in HB8+ scale however. So I guess every man picked hotties...
Have you been before?
 

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Viking25 said:
I've been to one of those. 80% of the women were fat and ugly. The rest were in HB8+ scale however. So I guess every man picked hotties...
It was a waste of time and money.

this is free and organised by the college i go to so nothing but student gonna be there ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Anyone know where you can find out about these events?

I considered going to one if I found one, AND I had a friend of mine, out of the blue, mention to me a couple weeks ago, thta he'd go if he knew where there was one at.

Any ideas?
 

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I would say just act like you don't care. The other guys are trying to have nervous and boring little mini job interviews. You should be only trying to have a laugh about something. As with any c&f, a laugh at her expense is ok, as long as it is light hearted and about some trivial thing. Don't call a tall chick an Amazon or a chubby girl fat, but you can rip on her purse or shoes a little. Or make fun of anything else you find funny. If all you care about is having fun in that moment, it projects value on your part.
 

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What's worked for me (yeah, I've done this too) is to run the interview process yourself. Understand what the event is about, conversation. The bad thing is that more times than not the majority of the people there aren't good conversationalist so unless you drive the interaction yourself it's like pushing a boulder uphill.

I say come in with some good questions. Not any of the "What do you do," "where did you grow up" boring BS either. Have at least five creative questions, nothing too intellectual but ones that don't typically come up in conversation, basically qualify her right then and there (be confident, not ****y; it'll scare them away). Here's another reason why it will work, if you drive the interview you can answer your own questions too in order for her to get to know you. This way you won't go in worrying about her asking you something off the wall that you weren't prepared to answer.

Be a man and take control. It'll make you stand out from the the AFC and make you memorable. You'll be surprised how many women say that they're interested in you, even the ones you weren't interested in yourself.
 

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Black Casanova said:
bump...I'm interested in question suggestions
What do you talk about when you're qualifying?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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