Going slow/taking things slow

[Spaz]

Ok so how should I proceed? If nothing happens this weekend I’m going on a sex rampage while she’s in Morocco next week and I will just continue as platonic friends and go see girls and be honest with her about it

You don't need permission from her.

Go do ur stuff man. Stop thinking abt her. It's her job to think of you. She's the female here.

 

[R.U.G.]

I always say push it to the limit until she says no. When she does say no or stop, back off and try again a bit later. It's always better to seem more advantageous than less. Most women secretly want an aggressive man but throw up the defenses to make them seem no "easy" or just a quick lay. Women want men who go after the pus.

 

[R.U.G.]

What??!!

NEVER listen to what she says. ALWAYS judge on ACTIONS.

Peach my brother. PREACH!!!!!

 

[marmel75]

Lol. I think he typed it wrong.

Overall he's right.

Yeah that was an epic gaffe on my part.

 

[wifehunter]

I'm inclined to recommend forgetting about sex, till she's tearing off your clothes.

 

[Spaz]

Yeah that was an epic gaffe on my part.

You made a point there that was way more better then the rest.

I do hope OP takes it all in.

 

[Murk]

We went out for dinner me her, and her other two mates from Australia. We ended up arguing, I went outside on my phone started chatting to ppl, come back in the restruant everyone’s hating me. Sara kicks off, says something to the effect of if you gonna be like this just leave..

“Have a good evening girls”

I bounce obv

I ask her if we are going tommorow (today) or if I should make other plans. She text me “don’t care” at 12am I’m sleeping by this time

Then I wake up to a text at 5:40 “coming home soon...”

It’s now 6:57 and I’m dressed suave as fvck skinny jeans, shirt blazer with pocket square and brown shoes honestly I look like a god

I’m not wishing her happy bday today, pretty sure she went home with some guy, I’m meeting a girl tonight instead of going to her bday, I don’t need this stress and never dealt with such a woman before, I now see why her friends didn’t wanna live with her, she’s fvcked this whole arrangement for herself and Im now doing me

 

[marvinlfloresq]

We went out for dinner me her, and her other two mates from Australia. We ended up arguing, I went outside on my phone started chatting to ppl, come back in the restruant everyone’s hating me. Sara kicks off, says something to the effect of if you gonna be like this just leave..

“Have a good evening girls”

I bounce obv

I ask her if we are going tommorow (today) or if I should make other plans. She text me “don’t care” at 12am I’m sleeping by this time

Then I wake up to a text at 5:40 “coming home soon...”

It’s now 6:57 and I’m dressed suave as fvck skinny jeans, shirt blazer with pocket square and brown shoes honestly I look like a god

I’m not wishing her happy bday today, pretty sure she went home with some guy, I’m meeting a girl tonight instead of going to her bday, I don’t need this stress and never dealt with such a woman before, I now see why her friends didn’t wanna live with her, she’s fvcked this whole arrangement for herself and Im now doing me

I think you should be honest with yourself, you want her as a gf. She out-manuvered you.

You are too invested emotionally. I would eject. Murk, procceed with *caution.

 

[Murk]

Ok we banged again last night, it was good, she is reluctant to kiss me though which I find odd as we have kissed before, she’s so weird. Will proceed with caution

 

[Soflobro#3]

What does this actually mean when a woman says it?

When I've heard this before it was just words to excuse supposed "slvt" behavior later that night when I smash.

It can mean lots of things, she might have a timetable to sex "6 date rule" or w/e, or maybe doesn't want to rush in and ruin it what you have, or maybe she is not fully in it and wants a chance to back out later?

Any of the older guys got some pearls of wisdom you can spray across my neck on this one?

She is a Virgin or she wants to see more commitment of if you.

 

[Murk]

Thinking back, the sex was very mechanical, alien and pedestrian. I don't think she knows how to show affection and can only flirt/initiate sex while drunk. I'm thinking either been abused/raped or gets so blackout drunk/memory loss she has assumed rape, either way she's ****ed. I am cutting my losses here and have 2 dates lined for tomorrow and Wednesday.