"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Going out alone?

Dingus

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I'm in a really strange position right now. I recently moved to the city, got a new job and a place to live. However, all of my friends now have serious girlfriends and rarely go out. When we do go out it's usually to a movie or something, not a great place to meet people. Because I'm in a new place I have very few friends which makes going out difficult. I absolutely hat going out alone unless it's to read a coffee shop. Going out to bars or clubs alone is really depressing and makes me feel that much more insecure. I notice that people also look at you strange when you're out a bar alone.

Does anyone have experience doing this? I've become completely bummed out because I feel like I'm missing out on so many things. I live in a great location close to lots of places to hang out but can't get over going out alone. Am I just being a *****? If I go out alone where should I go?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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allan976

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You might want to do a search on this board, as it's been discussed several times. Actually, I raised the same question just the other day on the mature man's board and you can read the suggestions to my/our question there.

Also, how about working on your daytime game in the meantime. In your daily routine, I am sure you go grocery shopping, hit up cafes, go the gym, whatever. These are all pretty decent places to have convo's with the women (much better than clubs actually).

If you have any local message boards for PUA's in your area (we have one in Los Angeles for example), you might want to head out to nightspots with like minded individuals who post on these boards.

Finally, how about 'recruiting' a friend or two from your new worksite to head out with you one of these weekends. Good luck and post a FR/LR!

Allan
 

Dingus

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I did try a search and got zero results...WTF?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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