"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Going out alone?

Dingus

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I'm in a really strange position right now. I recently moved to the city, got a new job and a place to live. However, all of my friends now have serious girlfriends and rarely go out. When we do go out it's usually to a movie or something, not a great place to meet people. Because I'm in a new place I have very few friends which makes going out difficult. I absolutely hat going out alone unless it's to read a coffee shop. Going out to bars or clubs alone is really depressing and makes me feel that much more insecure. I notice that people also look at you strange when you're out a bar alone.

Does anyone have experience doing this? I've become completely bummed out because I feel like I'm missing out on so many things. I live in a great location close to lots of places to hang out but can't get over going out alone. Am I just being a *****? If I go out alone where should I go?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You might want to do a search on this board, as it's been discussed several times. Actually, I raised the same question just the other day on the mature man's board and you can read the suggestions to my/our question there.

Also, how about working on your daytime game in the meantime. In your daily routine, I am sure you go grocery shopping, hit up cafes, go the gym, whatever. These are all pretty decent places to have convo's with the women (much better than clubs actually).

If you have any local message boards for PUA's in your area (we have one in Los Angeles for example), you might want to head out to nightspots with like minded individuals who post on these boards.

Finally, how about 'recruiting' a friend or two from your new worksite to head out with you one of these weekends. Good luck and post a FR/LR!

Allan
 

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I did try a search and got zero results...WTF?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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