"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Going on another date with her, need advice

LostAndConfused

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So I'm going out on another date with this girl, but I've got a few problems I need some help with to work around.

This date is gonna involve alot of hooking up and will probably escalate past that, so the first idea I thought for a venue would be my house, but I still live with my parents (im in high school what do you expect!?), so there is a great chance they would walk in at any time and ruin everything.

Another problem is, at this time, there aren't many action dates we can do given our location....plus I'm injured so I can't do something like ice skating bowling alleys far, the majority date would consist of me driving her and driving back.

Any ideas of how to get around these problems? Would mall trekking work?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ARrocket

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You seem to live in a pretty sucky place.

Ok, how about going to see a movie or something? Usually not a great idea, but with your limited mobility...

Can you walk ok? A zoo or a park or something could be nice....and yeah, you could just walk around the mall.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ExcelNPrevail

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The mall is fine. But...dam that sucks where do you live?? Luckily I live in Houston, too many places here. Good for public fu(kin tho. :up:
 

LostAndConfused

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The thing is....I'm pretty sure she's sorta tomboyish. I've suggested doing ice skating and to the zoo and the first time she changed it to a movie date, and the second time, she flat out flaked on me...called me afterward so I wont next her just yet....

Any suggestions? I would play sports with her at my house but there are always too many things going on, dogs and cats, siblings, parents....we would never get a chance to hook up.
 

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sounds liek your trying to hard just to hook up with one girl and thats all your thinking about
 

LostAndConfused

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Teh_Wolf said:
sounds liek your trying to hard just to hook up with one girl and thats all your thinking about
I mean ive already hooked up but.....I see what your saying. your exactly right. im thinking about it way too much. I'm probably developping one-itis for some reason. :cuss: .

Thanks. I'll try to let the chips fall into place....for now I gotta get this b1tch of my mind.
 

2.0

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I agree with Wolf. If she flaked on your second date, you need to next her. Flaking on the tenth date would be one thing, maybe even the fifth if she called you afterwards, but on the second? Yeah... NEXT.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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LostAndConfused

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Well, this would be the third date, she didn't flake on the first two. After the second she called talking about how she was looking forward to the next one. And she called "apologizing" after she flaked. making me all confused.

I just gotta get this out my head.
 

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Could be 2 things
1) a test
2) shes feels shes in control

both arent good
but i wouldnt worry about it
anything ive learned is just dont worry bout it.
just be cool do what you want if things work out with her great
if not tons of others girls who would love to hook up with u
 
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