"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Going on another date with her, need advice

LostAndConfused

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So I'm going out on another date with this girl, but I've got a few problems I need some help with to work around.

This date is gonna involve alot of hooking up and will probably escalate past that, so the first idea I thought for a venue would be my house, but I still live with my parents (im in high school what do you expect!?), so there is a great chance they would walk in at any time and ruin everything.

Another problem is, at this time, there aren't many action dates we can do given our location....plus I'm injured so I can't do something like ice skating bowling alleys far, the majority date would consist of me driving her and driving back.

Any ideas of how to get around these problems? Would mall trekking work?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ARrocket

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You seem to live in a pretty sucky place.

Ok, how about going to see a movie or something? Usually not a great idea, but with your limited mobility...

Can you walk ok? A zoo or a park or something could be nice....and yeah, you could just walk around the mall.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ExcelNPrevail

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The mall is fine. But...dam that sucks where do you live?? Luckily I live in Houston, too many places here. Good for public fu(kin tho. :up:
 

LostAndConfused

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The thing is....I'm pretty sure she's sorta tomboyish. I've suggested doing ice skating and to the zoo and the first time she changed it to a movie date, and the second time, she flat out flaked on me...called me afterward so I wont next her just yet....

Any suggestions? I would play sports with her at my house but there are always too many things going on, dogs and cats, siblings, parents....we would never get a chance to hook up.
 

Teh_Wolf

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sounds liek your trying to hard just to hook up with one girl and thats all your thinking about
 

LostAndConfused

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Teh_Wolf said:
sounds liek your trying to hard just to hook up with one girl and thats all your thinking about
I mean ive already hooked up but.....I see what your saying. your exactly right. im thinking about it way too much. I'm probably developping one-itis for some reason. :cuss: .

Thanks. I'll try to let the chips fall into place....for now I gotta get this b1tch of my mind.
 

2.0

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I agree with Wolf. If she flaked on your second date, you need to next her. Flaking on the tenth date would be one thing, maybe even the fifth if she called you afterwards, but on the second? Yeah... NEXT.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LostAndConfused

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Well, this would be the third date, she didn't flake on the first two. After the second she called talking about how she was looking forward to the next one. And she called "apologizing" after she flaked. making me all confused.

I just gotta get this out my head.
 

DonAlan456

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Could be 2 things
1) a test
2) shes feels shes in control

both arent good
but i wouldnt worry about it
anything ive learned is just dont worry bout it.
just be cool do what you want if things work out with her great
if not tons of others girls who would love to hook up with u
 
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