"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Going on another date with her, need advice

LostAndConfused

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So I'm going out on another date with this girl, but I've got a few problems I need some help with to work around.

This date is gonna involve alot of hooking up and will probably escalate past that, so the first idea I thought for a venue would be my house, but I still live with my parents (im in high school what do you expect!?), so there is a great chance they would walk in at any time and ruin everything.

Another problem is, at this time, there aren't many action dates we can do given our location....plus I'm injured so I can't do something like ice skating bowling alleys far, the majority date would consist of me driving her and driving back.

Any ideas of how to get around these problems? Would mall trekking work?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ARrocket

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You seem to live in a pretty sucky place.

Ok, how about going to see a movie or something? Usually not a great idea, but with your limited mobility...

Can you walk ok? A zoo or a park or something could be nice....and yeah, you could just walk around the mall.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ExcelNPrevail

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The mall is fine. But...dam that sucks where do you live?? Luckily I live in Houston, too many places here. Good for public fu(kin tho. :up:
 

LostAndConfused

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The thing is....I'm pretty sure she's sorta tomboyish. I've suggested doing ice skating and to the zoo and the first time she changed it to a movie date, and the second time, she flat out flaked on me...called me afterward so I wont next her just yet....

Any suggestions? I would play sports with her at my house but there are always too many things going on, dogs and cats, siblings, parents....we would never get a chance to hook up.
 

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sounds liek your trying to hard just to hook up with one girl and thats all your thinking about
 

LostAndConfused

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Teh_Wolf said:
sounds liek your trying to hard just to hook up with one girl and thats all your thinking about
I mean ive already hooked up but.....I see what your saying. your exactly right. im thinking about it way too much. I'm probably developping one-itis for some reason. :cuss: .

Thanks. I'll try to let the chips fall into place....for now I gotta get this b1tch of my mind.
 

2.0

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I agree with Wolf. If she flaked on your second date, you need to next her. Flaking on the tenth date would be one thing, maybe even the fifth if she called you afterwards, but on the second? Yeah... NEXT.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LostAndConfused

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Well, this would be the third date, she didn't flake on the first two. After the second she called talking about how she was looking forward to the next one. And she called "apologizing" after she flaked. making me all confused.

I just gotta get this out my head.
 

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Could be 2 things
1) a test
2) shes feels shes in control

both arent good
but i wouldnt worry about it
anything ive learned is just dont worry bout it.
just be cool do what you want if things work out with her great
if not tons of others girls who would love to hook up with u
 
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