"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Going from Friends to More Than Friends...

foomee

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Sooo I've been friends with this girl for a while and I'm starting to get attracted to her. At the beginning of last night she said to me that I'm one of her closest guy friends (which saddened me!). But by the end of the night I'm getting lap dances and basically her all over me. I didn't make a move or anything cos the thought of her saying I'm one of her closest guy friends messed me up...
I dunno if it's too late or not, but how can I turn this around? I'm thinking much more kino and possibly some sorta sexual contact/talking. I'm not trying to go too in depth with this though... but any advice will do.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dannyrt34

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This question is nearly impossible to answer. Because it's nearly impossible to do at your point. You can try the whole sexual contact or sex talk.

To be honest, I doubt it would work. Just be prepared to lose her as a friend if you do try to come on stronger.
 

backbreaker

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I was wondering when we would see another LJBF post.. you guys were starting to worry me.


Words can't describe how many Lets Just Be Friends post there are on this forum. literarly probalby a thousand.. at least 100 by me.

Before you make another post, use the search button. it's all there.
 

Docs

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I just love how girls can chuck interest and well, I can't touch her, she's just a friend. I like her and all, but she's just a friend.

Noobs!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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thekcguyme

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same boat

I'm in the same boat dude. I'm friends with my Ex-Girlfriend and I still have deep feeling for her. She can't even go one day without talking to me. If i'm not online then she calls my phone till i pick up. She is dating a guy right now and she always tells me I'm much more of a boyfriend than he is and that she is torn between the two of us, but yet we arent together and I have a feeling we probably wont. women are just nutz and teases.
 

Alphamale1821

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Well i have been ljbf but i was some how able to get out i guess the change in my personality was strong enough to change things around. I was once a AFC with a girl i had a crush on she always though i was cute but i was "zoned" then when i made the change to become alpha i noticed all that ljbf **** went out the window once i started getting her attracted to me and pulling out some kino.

In the end i had her comming after me. So i would advise going for kino and being a little more sexually aggressive but at the same time not doin anything that will mess up the freindship. When you in the "friend zone" it can be hella difficult to get out and most of the time is best to just move on but if you feel the sexual connection from her then go on.
 
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