Going for the first kiss

[Prodoge]

So I've got a date with this girl on saturday.
My plan is to pick her up, drive to town, go to a pub to talk, flirt and get to know her.
After that I'll take her to a latino bar with a "hotter" atmosphere with music and dancing (even though i dont dance very well) which is a 5-10 min walk away. This she doesn't know about yet.

My plan was, as long as the first part in the pub goes well (positive responses to touching, good body laguage) to go for the first kiss on the way to the latino bar.

The problem is I'm not sure how to go for the kiss while walking. I mean how to stop her ? Where to stop? And how to make her understand what I'm up to ?

Thanks for your help!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Stroke her hair while walking...if a woman allows you to stroke her hair without pulling away she is receptive to you kissing her. If she turns and smiles at you and/or tells you "I really like when you do that" you should IMMEDIATELY kiss her...she just gave you a green light. Go up behind her and wrap your arms around her and see if she leans back into you. If she does, kiss her neck and her ear...then turn her face towards you and kiss her lips.

She KNOWS what you are up to. She knows you want to fvck her, you are taking her out. Act like it, if you don't she will think you are a pvssy. This is so simple we over complicate things way too much. They know why we are with them, they know what we want, they expect us to not be afraid to make our intentions known to them.

Stop making plans, stop overthinking, just go with the flow and do what you want, this stuff is not hard once you just stop thinking there are rules to follow

 

[Yewki]

Stop making plans, stop overthinking, just go with the flow and do what you want, this stuff is not hard once you just stop thinking there are rules to follow

Yep, OP you're making a big deal out the date and by extension pedestalizing the girl. You're trying to plan a specific time to kiss a girl, on a date that hasn't even happened yet. You also seem awfully sure that you'll actually like the girl and want to kiss her to begin with. How well do you even know her? Take all these thoughts and worries about the date, and throw them out the window. Kiss her if you feel like it. Go to the latino bar if you feel like it. Do what you want to, in the moment.

 

[logicallefty]

I like the OPs mention of the mid date kiss. Mid date is my preference. As for when mid date? Don't overthink it as others have said. If it reaches a point where your gut says things are going well, just do it. Kiss her like its a daily habit and think nothing of it.

 

[SteR]

I think the absolute worst thing you can do is try and make a plan for this - it won't work. Just go with the flow and you'll know when the time is right...

 

[Tictac]

I think the absolute worst thing you can do is try and make a plan for this - it won't work. Just go with the flow and you'll know when the time is right...

I gotta agree. Maybe it's because what we do here is reduced to text. But so much of this sounds like over-planned tactics that it comes off as mechanical and clumsy

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Interested in how this went...post an update OP

 

[RangerMIke]

You are overthinking this... trust me.... she will pick up on this, and it will make you appear weak.

Just go out, have fun, try not to have any expectations or ego and just play it by ear. You will have more fun, be more natural and she'll like you better and feel more comfortable.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Just kiss her when you want to.

I just got stiff armed on my last date for trying to kiss unexpectedly. She sent me some huge apologizing essay about how she wasn't ready for it, never had someone so forward yada yada. Don't hold back your interest. The only thing she can do is reject you. Rejection is good! Rejection forces her to think about how she feels about you.

 

[marmel75]

Ok, well date should have happened last night...OP you gonna keep us in suspense or let us know what happened??

 

[wifehunter]

I think the absolute worst thing you can do is try and make a plan for this - it won't work. Just go with the flow and you'll know when the time is right...

Yes, don't even give it another thought. If it's going to happen, it will!

Wow, that goes for a bunch of other stuff too!!! Not just kissing! LOL!!!

Going against the current usually, will make things awkward.

 

[Prodoge]

Since you are all curious, well... she flaked saying she was tired and didn't want to go out anymore. But she also suggested to reschedule for maybe next week. I didn't commit saying we will see debating if I want to even try again.

Yesterday night I went to a like a seasonal festival with the boys. Of course I we came across each other and spoke a bit, and she suggested to go next friday saying she has nothing planned yet so I agreed. Don't know what to think of this lol

 

[Yewki]

she flaked saying she was tired and didn't want to go out anymore... she suggested to go next friday saying she has nothing planned yet so I agreed. Don't know what to think of this lol

Not much to do or think about. Just take charge now and follow up with a specific time/place for Friday

 

[Stugots26]

OP, she flaked on you because she was tired and didn't want to go out, but then you saw her out anyway? Don't you see the contradiction?

 

[Prodoge]

OP, she flaked on you because she was tired and didn't want to go out, but then you saw her out anyway? Don't you see the contradiction?

No, I saw her to following day

 

[marmel75]

OP, she flaked on you because she was tired and didn't want to go out, but then you saw her out anyway? Don't you see the contradiction?

I'm thinking it would be the next day considering he is 6+ hours ahead of us time wise...