"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Going after a girl who's on verge of breaking up with her boyfriend?

Kal0051

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I know this girl that I kind of like but she's had a boyfriend as long as i've known her (only a couple of months). Now it appears her relationship with him is pretty much over. Should I persue her or wait a little bit first? I've already asked her to hang out, so any comments on that too would be nice. Thanks guys.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Any other advice? I do appreciate your advice Captain, I kinda think the same way as you.
 

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go for it, if you even have the audacity to do such a thing, you PROBALY ALREADY HAVE COMPETITION! BEAT THE COMPETITION BEFORE IT WINS THE RACE!
 

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My 2 cents:

Don't go for it, yet. At best you'll be the "rebound" guy at worst you'll be in the LJBF zone. You say her relationship is "pretty much" over. That means it is "not" over. Too early to turn AFC. Beware!


Cheers!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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romangod said:
My 2 cents:

Don't go for it, yet. At best you'll be the "rebound" guy at worst you'll be in the LJBF zone. You say her relationship is "pretty much" over. That means it is "not" over. Too early to turn AFC. Beware!


Cheers!
well I don't know if it's over for sure. I'm not her girlfriend so she doesn't keep me informed of these things. And I think it would be odd sounding if I just asked her if they were through, know what I mean?
 

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if you want to be the rebound then go for it, if you want a more serious relationship have patience till she calmed down and is over the previous relationship.
 
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