"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Go DJ! Yeah that's my DJ!

Naughty Ninja

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Go DJ! Yeah that's my DJ! :up: (Hey fug lil Wayne but it's a catchy title.)

After all you've learned and hopefully grown during your time on these DJ forums can anyone say any of the women in your life would be or are your own DJ cheering section?

Let's put the negativity and complaining on the backburner for once.

**Waits for BackBreaker to be the first to reply.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Naughty Ninja said:

**Waits for BackBreaker to be the first to reply.
HAH! NO! i win!!
 

Chamber36

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Lol.

Good question man.

I was so pretty confused with DJism for a long time. I quit clubbing for a while and just converse with women in daily life. They seem to be generally nicer, cuz their protection shield is lower. Anyway, I am becoming more intolerant of *****y behavior, and I only really respond to the ones that don't give me too much ****-tests. It's like Anti-Dump's machine.

Women's interest is still completely random. You can meet two 7's, one will like u, one won't. Nobody knows why. Point is, though I'm not doing great, I have my women who like me, which boosts my confidence and is good for my ego.

So I don't have major cheerleaders, but I'm no hermit either. I've got some female friends, some give me more ****-tests than others. I'm working on recruiting more though, lol.

The trick is simply to avoid women that will give u sh*t. It's doing wonders for my life. All I gotta do is walk away from a b*tch, and I automatically gain respect.
 

Fly By Night

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Yeah, definitely getting better thanks to this site. I just recently added a new plate and it feels so weird. I feel like I have to commit to one of them, but that could just be monogamous conditioning. The thing is, when they don't want to hang, I feel like a loser, but then they contact me later and reschedule, then I feel cool again lol.

I should really learn to be happy with or without them, I think being a DJ is knowing that you can be happy just by being yourself.
 

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At first, the "focus on your life more so than women" was a very tough pill to swallow. I used to be so addicted to sarging that I couldn't internalize that philosophy.

Finally getting a hobby (dance) helped me a lot. I really DON'T care if or when I meet someone. I just have fun with it and keep working to get better.

So while I have no female cheerleaders, I know I'm on the right track.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SgtSplacker

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I was never really bad with women, but I definitely did not understand why they responded to certain things that seemed against logic. Women really confused me before I came here. I'm a very logical person, if I say something I mean it. I thought everyone was like that. This site taught me that what a woman thinks she wants is not what she really wants/needs.

I am not the type of person that constantly seeks to make himself look better then anyone else (DHV). I find no satisfaction in making apparent my dominance over others. I'm very happy/satisfied in my own skin. But when dealing with women it's important to create a distinction between you and everyone else. Being the easy going cool guy is not cool at all.

Can't be too nice to girls, they lose respect for you. I generally tend to my women much less now. Even if I want to do something nice, I realize she must earn these things or she will lose interest in everything.

My girl now is my biggest fan by far.
 
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