"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Go DJ! Yeah that's my DJ!

Naughty Ninja

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Go DJ! Yeah that's my DJ! :up: (Hey fug lil Wayne but it's a catchy title.)

After all you've learned and hopefully grown during your time on these DJ forums can anyone say any of the women in your life would be or are your own DJ cheering section?

Let's put the negativity and complaining on the backburner for once.

**Waits for BackBreaker to be the first to reply.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Naughty Ninja said:

**Waits for BackBreaker to be the first to reply.
HAH! NO! i win!!
 

Chamber36

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Lol.

Good question man.

I was so pretty confused with DJism for a long time. I quit clubbing for a while and just converse with women in daily life. They seem to be generally nicer, cuz their protection shield is lower. Anyway, I am becoming more intolerant of *****y behavior, and I only really respond to the ones that don't give me too much ****-tests. It's like Anti-Dump's machine.

Women's interest is still completely random. You can meet two 7's, one will like u, one won't. Nobody knows why. Point is, though I'm not doing great, I have my women who like me, which boosts my confidence and is good for my ego.

So I don't have major cheerleaders, but I'm no hermit either. I've got some female friends, some give me more ****-tests than others. I'm working on recruiting more though, lol.

The trick is simply to avoid women that will give u sh*t. It's doing wonders for my life. All I gotta do is walk away from a b*tch, and I automatically gain respect.
 

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Yeah, definitely getting better thanks to this site. I just recently added a new plate and it feels so weird. I feel like I have to commit to one of them, but that could just be monogamous conditioning. The thing is, when they don't want to hang, I feel like a loser, but then they contact me later and reschedule, then I feel cool again lol.

I should really learn to be happy with or without them, I think being a DJ is knowing that you can be happy just by being yourself.
 

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At first, the "focus on your life more so than women" was a very tough pill to swallow. I used to be so addicted to sarging that I couldn't internalize that philosophy.

Finally getting a hobby (dance) helped me a lot. I really DON'T care if or when I meet someone. I just have fun with it and keep working to get better.

So while I have no female cheerleaders, I know I'm on the right track.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I was never really bad with women, but I definitely did not understand why they responded to certain things that seemed against logic. Women really confused me before I came here. I'm a very logical person, if I say something I mean it. I thought everyone was like that. This site taught me that what a woman thinks she wants is not what she really wants/needs.

I am not the type of person that constantly seeks to make himself look better then anyone else (DHV). I find no satisfaction in making apparent my dominance over others. I'm very happy/satisfied in my own skin. But when dealing with women it's important to create a distinction between you and everyone else. Being the easy going cool guy is not cool at all.

Can't be too nice to girls, they lose respect for you. I generally tend to my women much less now. Even if I want to do something nice, I realize she must earn these things or she will lose interest in everything.

My girl now is my biggest fan by far.
 
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