"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Go ahead, rate my pic

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

ShizamDaMan

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 26, 2003
Messages
1,113
Reaction score
3
Get to the gym.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

S1NN3R

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2006
Messages
680
Reaction score
13
Location
Loss Vaygus, NV
Hot Or Not hotness formula. For men: Start at -4 and add (+5) for shirtless pic, (+4) for hairless chest, (+4) for no missing teeth, (+1) for puppy.

For women start at +5 and add (+5) for cleavage.
 
Last edited:

tom121

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 28, 2004
Messages
334
Reaction score
0
HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA

you could pass up as a drag queen easily
 

librito

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 31, 2004
Messages
307
Reaction score
38
you are a good looking guy man...
I wish I looked like you......the funny thing is that right now I can pull girls from anywhere and anytime.its all about confidence.
just hit the gym a little and work on your insecurities. thats all.
keep on learning and practicing....
 

RaWBLooD

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 13, 2005
Messages
998
Reaction score
0
Age
45
Location
depends
you look geniunely happy
yay !:rock:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Natch

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 23, 2006
Messages
108
Reaction score
1
Dude u look okay to me.
At the moment you've got that kinda "guy next door" look that women will find comforting.

Tho cos you don't have that "I'm an alphamale and I'm menaer than you" look or physique , you won't have much room for being any kind of a ***** near an attractive woman, but then who does ?

If you wanted to improve it , get a haircut more regularly and hit the gym , but you should do that only cos *you* want to.

Like wheelin&dealin sez , good enough to get any girl you want, looks should be no problem for you.
 

Tomatoes

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 3, 2006
Messages
1,099
Reaction score
7
Age
41
Location
Nottingham
Were you shy? or is your face alway red
 

Socialreject

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 9, 2005
Messages
409
Reaction score
4
Upper said:
how does one lose chin and/or cheek fats?
Same way you lose other fats, just that chin and cheek is almost always the last to go... so basically... cut like a mofo. I read somewhere that facial massages help as well. Not sure if i believe that, but it's worth a try i guess.

donjuanapprentice01, good picture, one small remark though. You have VERY oily skin! This is no big deal but it does make you look greasy if you don't pay special attention to it. Get a soap that's specifically for frequent use and oily skin, consider washing your face multiple times a day AND (if you want to take it that far) consider adapting your diet to eat less fatty foods.

Oily skin makes you look "polished" somehow, not silky at all and it's something women pick up on easy. I have the same problem, i use a special soap and it's also gotten much better since i changed my diet!
 

Jerry Maguire

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 4, 2005
Messages
227
Reaction score
4
I'd definitely get your hair styled.
Lose a bit of body fat.

Most importantly though is the hair, imo, it has to change.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Tomatoes

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 3, 2006
Messages
1,099
Reaction score
7
Age
41
Location
Nottingham
I agree about the Oily skin thing.....thats the biggest issue. Your complextion.
 

Fash

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2005
Messages
445
Reaction score
9
Age
45
Location
UK

Jariel

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2004
Messages
4,413
Reaction score
297
Location
UK
You asked for constructive criticism, so I'll be honest. I think you could benefit a lot from losing some bodyfat. You have decent looks, but the extra weight gives you a cuddly, non-sexual presence. This was the case with me when I was carrying extra weight and many other guys I know. Have a read in the health and fitness forum and (most important of all) educate yourself on weightloss, and try to get a decent diet and exercise routine.

I also agree with comments about your hair. Again, it has that safe, non-sexual look. Try to go with something more modern, or have it cut very short.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Top