"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Gladiators!::Approach Anxiety Competition!
- Thread starter AAAgent
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The start date is still February 28th 2011.
Current Participants: 16 (task's will be posted 2-3 days before the start of the first week)
AAAgent
sesshoDevrim
Gray The Prince
Stryker
Guinea Pig
Deicide --(kind of iffy about you. you've been consistently approaching it seems but by your earlier statement i guess if its for betterment than i'll allow it)
Feedline
Pierce
Angelo
Flint
powpow
umirinbrah
Ease
Shivastorm_88
xs_
Just whatever you think, I'm fine with it either way. I've had one date this week with one girl, and I have another one with a different girl Friday, so everything is transitioning well it seems. My approach anxieties are worse about approaching 2/3/4 sets and moving targets. Just seeing a girl by herself on a corner isn't so bad.AAAgent said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Gray The Prince
Master Don Juan
Make at least 1 approach(female) or possibly 2 and attempt to number close. This can be done in any setting, night, day, etc.
If you are successful with the first attempt at getting the number you have completed the task and are finished. Anything else is extra.
If you are denied the number you must cold approach and attempt to number close a second person. As long as you complete 2 approaches (either 1 fail and 1 success or 2 fails) or 1 initial successful approach you will have succeeded in this week's task. Failure to do any approaches will result in 1 elimination.
Gladiators are allowed two eliminations before they are fully expelled from the games, essentially being double elimination.
You are only required to make a maximum of 2 attempts or a minimum of 1 successful attempt so each participant MUST document in this forum exactly:
1.) Where they approached.
2.) What they said.
3.) The response they were given.
4.) Anything else noteworthy.
This is so other participants including YOU, can learn from their mistake, other's mistakes, and successes.
Participants are still welcomed until the end of the first week. If you join midway through the task you still have to complete the task by the same time as everyone else.
Masculinity
Master Don Juan
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Add my screen name to this list. AA you better be ready for me!AAAgent said:
Gray The Prince
Master Don Juan
You can start anytime.
AAAgent
sesshoDevrim
Gray The Prince
Stryker
Guinea Pig
Deicide
Feedline
Pierce
Angelo
Flint
powpow
umirinbrah
Ease
Shivastorm_88
xs_
Robyn923b
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
powpow
Senior Don Juan
powpow
Senior Don Juan
approach 1 - 6 - mid to late twenties - megafail
approach a girl as she is waiting for the light to change. I tell her I like her shoes. she completely ignores me. I look at her kind of confused. she pulls down her hood, and pulls out her earphones and looks kind of annoyed. I said, "oh! yeah sorry I didnt notice you were listening to music. I wanted to tell you I like your shoes. look warm, Im really jealous. girls only right? (they were those big fur boots that seem to be really popular here). She pretty much blew me off. said, oh yeah, thanks, and put the earphones back in. awkward.
approach 2 - 7 - late teens, early 20s - utter success
I notice this girl, dressed really cute, no umbrella. its starting to rain kind of hard at this point.
me - sweetheart wheres your umbrella? it seems to be raining. big smile
her - haha, I left it at home. I didnt think it was going to rain today
me - hahaha, japan weather likes to change its mind huh
her - laugh, big smile, eye contact, no words
pause
me - hey where are you going?
her - to the station, you?
me - going to the super. its on the way for you. kinda weird but if you want you can walk with me at least to there. then, in a very american accent, in english, I say, I am nice guy. (with a big smile) then switch back to japanese and say akujin ja nai. akujin is a very funny word meaning evil person. people laugh every time.
her - EH??!!!!! japanese girls do this when they are really surprised, kind of like, I cant believe youre doing this right now
me - yeah? big smile
her - no words, just trots over under my umbrella
BAM KINO ESCALATION. I hold the umbrella only over me, make her come closer hahahaha what a **** move I know
me - going to the station huh? what do you have planned on this day with such good weather?
her - Im just meeting a friend. nothing special
me - oh... one of your many boyfriends huh?
her - actually hes my friends friend. he likes me, but I dont really like him much (oh hell yeah, is this a hint? yes. yes it is)
me - oh is he cute? good hair? pretty face? cool shoes maybe?
her - laugh
me - hey **** that, lets go karaoke (karaoke is super popular here)
her - that EHHH??!!! thing again
me - Im serious (I use a local dialect here because I think its funny)
her - no no no I have to meet him. my friend would kill me
me - no no no its raining. call him, say you caught a cold. can you sing english songs? avril lavigne?
her - stops walking, looks at me, I think to see if Im full of **** or not.
me - walk a few steps away (isolating her from the umbrellas safety hahahaha). smile, and motion her to come on
she smiles, comes to me, tells me to hold on, walks into a bookstore, calls her stupid pal, comes out. we go karaoke.
I had a really good time. Told her I wanna see her again. Got her number, and hug close. For fun I grab her wrist while she hugs me, and pull her in a little, then break and part ways.
good time. glad I joined this competition
Masculinity
Master Don Juan
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
If a chick isnt even paying you any mind then why step to her. If a chick is already choosing you then its easy to step to her.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.