"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Giving Up" or "taking a break"?

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I'm a point right now where I've come a long way. I'm not where I want to be yet, and i'm not seeing that point in the near future. I need a break. I no longer have the energy to persue women.

The last time I felt like this, it was 2 years ago, my freshman year, and I ended up meeting my girlfriend whom I dated for a year soon thereafter. Coincidence? probably.

Anyway, is this feeling common? Is it bad for a semi-rookie DJ to feel like this? Should I keep pushing on? I just dont feel like being social or anything like that....it all feels forced.

Any tips?

--Kel
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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my advice is to keep trying. i am an amateur DJ as well, but it is my experience that no matter how good-looking you are, it is not likely that women will come to you if you don't try. so if you really want a woman, you have to put forth some effort. if you really feel stressed, then by all means you can step back for a little while, but just don't expect the chicks to come to you cause it ain't gonna happen!!!
 

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set aside a day where u can be an AFC with no pressure to recharge your battery. After that continue on.
 

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The thing that threw me for a loop was I basically did that this saturday. I didn't give a flying f+ck about DJ or whatever, just did what I wanted. And i had EVERY girl i talked to that night hitting on me.

Sunday night? nothing. no game at all.
THe problem is that on days I dont try, sometimes I have it, sometimes I dont. On days I try, it seems like i'm trying too hard!

--Kel
 

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Originally posted by kel
I didn't give a flying f+ck about DJ or whatever, just did what I wanted. And i had EVERY girl i talked to that night hitting on me.
Did anyone else hear the penny drop?!?
If you are not sitting there thinking "Hang about, that was easy and it WORKED!!! Maybe I should do that again..." Then please beat yourself about the head with the nearest wall for at least 10 minutes.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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It reminds me of an old CitiBank comercial tagline:

"Spend wisely, Seek balance, Live Richly..."
 

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Originally posted by kel
I'm a point right now where I've come a long way. I'm not where I want to be yet, and i'm not seeing that point in the near future. I need a break. I no longer have the energy to persue women.

The last time I felt like this, it was 2 years ago, my freshman year, and I ended up meeting my girlfriend whom I dated for a year soon thereafter. Coincidence? probably.

Anyway, is this feeling common? Is it bad for a semi-rookie DJ to feel like this? Should I keep pushing on? I just dont feel like being social or anything like that....it all feels forced.

Any tips?

--Kel
Try this: instead of "pursuing women", only pursue the women who REALLY turn you on.

A lot of people on here just aren't into every hot girl that walks up the street. It takes something else to turn them on. But they feel like they HAVE to "approach her" or else SoSuave will think they're "AFC".

Instead, just meet all the women you can, but don't "pursue" them until you find that one has you turned on for her. This natural attraction is probably the best weapon in your seductive arsenal, plus actually attaining her will be that much more gratifying.

Don't go to the flip-side, though, and start blowing women off that really DO turn you on, claiming that they DON'T when really you're too scared. Somewhere in the middle is the perfect place to be.
 

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Sup fellow baltimore DJ.

Yeah, that balance is a good one. The problem is, i'm at a point right now where desperation is starting to kick in! If it's got a pretty face and a decent rack, i'm probably OK with it! i know I need to lose this despiration mindset but it's difficult to get out of the loop.
 

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Everyone needs to take a break. Everyone needs to recharge their batteries. Nothing wrong with that at all.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
Everyone needs to take a break. Everyone needs to recharge their batteries. Nothing wrong with that at all.
I agree. I'm taking a break as well right now. I just feel burned out thinking it all.

Also, its good to sometimes stop, step back, and make sure your still going in the right direction.
 

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I dont know if i'm going the right way. I seemed to have it "on" without trying today, but it turns out that the girl in question had a BF. Now granted I think I had my A-Game with me and I could tell she was attracted to me, but it always seems to fall like that. It's very discouraging.

The fact that she only mentioned her BF a long while into the conversation, tried to sort of muffle the words, and spoke them very quickly made me wonder just how close these two were. I number-closed and made sure to sow the seeds in case the relationship isn't planning on lasting too long.

A quick question I think I know the answer to: when you're busting on a girl (or two as the case was), and you call her a not-so-nice name, and you get called an ******* by both, what's the deal?

Am I just being an *******? Are they testing me? My response was "i'd be offended if it wasn't true". with a big smirk. I just feel like I go overboard on being C+F and sometimes it borders just plain mean. I mean I have girls telling me I'm hilarious a lot, but i'm just trying to strike the right balance.

So much to do, so little energy to do it all!

--Kel

Edit: Read the post under Six String Samurai. Agreed. Good post :)
 
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Don't worry about going overboard with the C+F. You ARE going to piss off the girls with no sense of humor but you don't want them anyways so who cares?
 
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