I think I give off an aggressive vibe to women whether I know them or not. I'm pretty big too and weigh 200 pounds, so that doesn't help with women being comfortable around me. I do get girls and have a girlfriend(we're not exclusive), but my aggressive tendencies come out. Even when I was driving my girlfriend around she said "Where are we going? It looks like you're taking me in the middle of nowhere to kill me" lol. I'm not needy and I feel confident with women, though I don't know how I come off so aggressive and scary to others. I figured an aggressive vibe was great for sexual attraction. So what could I be doing to give off an aggressive/scary/possibly nontrustworthy vibe?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Giving off an aggressive/scary vibe to women?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
PapiChulo
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Maybe you are too tense or serious. Body language may be an issue. I am big too, but have baby face, people still dont ride with me in the elevators. Some say I have a heavy gaze that can creep people out. All these subtle things that people pick up on can have a huge effect.....
Your not responsible for someones irrational fears. Im big too, 6'2 260lbs. I look like a linebacker and I also have a beard im growing .. Oh yeah and im dark.. But not changimg any of that because someone is intimidated. The way I see it if someone fears you they are beneath you
Rather look big and intimidating than look like a *****
Rather look big and intimidating than look like a *****
I'm 6'5" 230 and used to be a very nervous person, with lots of fidgeting. You need to detoxify as the nervous energy is caused by artificial colors and flavors like MSG that are ubiquitous in fast food. Trust me on this. You'll feel serene after a fast. Girls are indirectly observing this as you are emitting the same crap you eat with your vibes.
But your doctor will says it's Restless Leg Syndrome and prescribe meds, side effects which include suicidal thoughts...
But your doctor will says it's Restless Leg Syndrome and prescribe meds, side effects which include suicidal thoughts...
Are you a fan of Deicide? Do you look at all like Glen Benton? Because if you do that would probably throw somebody off.
You probably just give off a weird vibe and are probably kind of a weird dude. Nothing wrong with that, quite the contrary in my opinion actually, especially if you have a girlfriend and are happy with her. Being normal would probably be even worse since it would be an act.
You are probably an individual and walk your own path. Be proud of it, it's not always easy. But it's usually satisfying. Get used to misunderstandings.
You probably just give off a weird vibe and are probably kind of a weird dude. Nothing wrong with that, quite the contrary in my opinion actually, especially if you have a girlfriend and are happy with her. Being normal would probably be even worse since it would be an act.
You are probably an individual and walk your own path. Be proud of it, it's not always easy. But it's usually satisfying. Get used to misunderstandings.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm built like Glen, but I don't have long hair. Yes, I never really fit in with the more normal/country type people here, but I can still attract those types of women.FairShake said:
Me and my girlfriend have fights every week but also do regular sex. I'm not completely satisfied by her and know I can do better, but I like hanging out with her, though we have very little in common. But somehow it works.
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Be you.
IMO, women who do this are themselves non-confident.
IMO, women who do this are themselves non-confident.