"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Give me your best method for picking up girls in a bar ?

Thechamp

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Give me your best method for picking up girls in a bar ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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RangerMIke

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Show up late.... do not drink.... understand female body language and approach women who are not flashing you signs of disinterest.

Walk up and start talking to a woman like you know her. Once you are talking, ask her name. Read her DL if she is giving you IOI, then escalate.
 

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Become a regular. Try to get on first name basis with bartender/staff.
Be social but not overly clingy.

Dress nice.
You now have social proof. Just sit back, wait for girls giving you eye contact and approach.
Sometimes they'll approach you.
 

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Post up by the bar, lean back and relax. Preferably near where hot women are at or will be coming to. Wait for lame dudes to walk up to them and offer to buy them drinks and get shut down, then calmly turn to them and make a sarcastic joke about what just happened...you'll both have a good laugh and its the easiest way in the world to break the ice and engage in conversation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I like to bust on bar chicks about their phones. What woman doesn't have a phone in her hand every 1-10 minutes? Say something like "Give that thing a rest already your gonna give it a heart attack" Or "I know a good doctor who can detach that thing it seems to be fused to your hands"
 

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A) Don't.
B) Go early and do hunting before it gets crowded and drunk

It's easier to meet women at networking events, meetup groups, fitness classes, bookstore, mall, etc. because they aren't surrounded by horny AFCs and bitchy girlfriends that haven't been laid in months.
 

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this is a good thread most guys want to know bar game because every one goes out at least once a week.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If you see a girl showing you interest, approach her immediately, without breaking the frame or vibe. fluff and flirt for 30 minutes (might be even quicker depending how smooth you can pull that approach) and tell her some lame excuse to get out of there (food, more drinks, drugs etc. doesn't matter you're just getting her out the bar)
 

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90% of the chances of success are connected to the choice of the right venue.

A decent guy in the right place scores much more than a hot social guy in a crappy one, so pay attention to the venue and the timing.

This is the first thing I feel to suggest you but it would take a very long post to just give basic explanations.

Also dont forget to deal with the surrounding environment and actors even before than with your girl, thats why the place and the timing are important.

You may be hot and run great game but if her fat friend drags her aways you fail, you may have your hand in her underwear but if you have to take it out to punch a white knight you fail and so on.
 

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@Who Dares Win totally agree. I would love to see an extra chapter in the DJ Bible on how to select venues and how to play the terrain to advantage. Eg. at a bowling alley you can do team chants high-fives fistbumps double high fives etc. At a venue with multiple spaces you can move the girls around inside the venue. There's only so many types of venues I reckon it could be done
 

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Guys don't pick up girls in bars. Girls pick up guys in bars.

You need to be her best option in the room or she will laugh at you. If you are her best option she will hold eye contact, smile, and probably invite you over. She will talk to you as if you have known her your whole life.

Early on in the conversation, she will introduce her friend. This is her bragging about you and making sure her friend approves. Unless they can both sing your praises, it won't go far. They need to both say "Isn't he CUTE? He's so adorable!" and then you are in.

If you don't pass the audition her friend will turn to her and rudely say "So anyhow, my son's girlfriend's cousin is having a wedding on the 27th and I was invited!" and c*ck block you the rest of the night. If you do pass the friend audition she will ask questions about you. Make a good impression, get the number, kiss her on the cheek and get out of there. Unless you think you have a chance to score that night (not unlikely), in which case the sooner the better. If you do have a chance and you don't take it, you'll probably never hear from her again because she'll go home with someone else.
 
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Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact!!!!!

If shes staring at you, shes noticed you, so make sure you look into her eyes too, smile then approach.

If you dont get the number , you suck at life.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Honestly, When it comes to the Bar/Lounge/Club scene, the method/style to approach is how attractive the girl finds you. If she's very attracted to you and checking you out a lot, you can go in missile hard and waste no time. Go up to her and stick your hand out for a handshake, once she takes hold of your hand, Move in close to her ear and say "Hey, I saw you walk by earlier and thought you were gorgeous". This line will work greatly again if she thinks your hot because even though that line is B.S that you saw her "earlier" tells her in her mind "this hot guy was checking me out hehe".

Then proceed with, whats your name, where are you from etc.. take it from there. if you see her drink is low, offer her a drink.... take hold of her hand as she follows you to the bar or if your already close to the bar, slightly put your hand on her waist and again move in towards her ear and say "what do you want?". Get the drink for her and start some small talk then either head to dance with her, If she doesnt want to dance, dont take it personally because it may not be you, it may be her feeling embarrassed because she feels she might look stupid. Thats Ok, Keep chatting or take her to a couch etc. Play it from there.
 

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Bend the knees and then put her over your shoulder. You get to feel her ass when you do it right.:p
 
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