"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So i met this girl and was her bf for a month.Everything was great but her ex bf was trying to come back and be with her.He would call and call and she would shut her phone off.Eventually she told me that she thinks she still has feelings for him.She then ended it with me "its been hard but my ex came back into town and i really cant talk or see you anymore.....im sorry".

Its been 3 weeks since then.I went from being pissed to not caring then to now.I want her back.......i havent contacted her at all.Should i still continue to give it up or try once more?.I know it may be afcish or whatever but im very new to this and she is my first gf
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She tested you and you failed that test. Now you should show some self-respect and just move on to someone who isn't going to treat you like ****.
 
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step up man.. you've been a member since 2003.. new to this?

I would drop it and not act needy.But if you really want to contact her.. don't be serious at all.. just send a txt and be like 'hey hows your day going'.. if shes interested, she'll show it.. but ehh it sounds to me like shes getting a bit controlled by the ex and can't grip away from him. so anyone else in her life isn't as important..
 
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I only say this cuz she was my first girlfriend.I do read things on this site but im not on here 24/7
 
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WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? She had her chance, she blew it. SHE doesn't get another chance. {on the flip side,she wanted the other guy more-you aren't getting any from her}{don't beg, it makes you look pathetic}.

Now if you want her back, strut by her with a 10 on your arm-she'll want you back[but with a 10, you won't want her]
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SharinganUser said:
She tested you and you failed that test. Now you should show some self-respect and just move on to someone who isn't going to treat you like ****.
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SharinganUser,you said that you think this was a test from her. Usually,I'm pretty good at spotting tests,but I can't seem to see it in this one. Could you explain what the test was here? And why she tested him,and what he should have done to pass the test?

As for you Intraining,I'd just forget about her. If you go back trying to get with her,(imo) you'd just inflate her ego. Her being able to go back and forth between two guys whenever she feels like it eventually will just make her look down on both you and the other guy.
 
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