"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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1life

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Hey, I just started school 2 weeks ago (been sick), and I used to be in an all boys school but this yr some girls came in.

why Is it that those girls keep ignoring me when they talk to my friends? and like when i add a comment they just seem to ignore me...

need some advices and thoughts here

and btw im not ugly or anything.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You either intimidate or annoy them.
 

1life

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
You either intimidate or annoy them.
nah, can't be that.
Maybe because im kind of goofy in class? doing weird sounds and making everyone laugh, could it be that?
 

oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by 1life
nah, can't be that.
Maybe because im kind of goofy in class? doing weird sounds and making everyone laugh, could it be that?
Right, weird sounds and goofy...that would fall under annoying them.
 

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yea but it makes them laugh in class...
so what kind of attitude should I adopt then?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by whyshy
****y and Funny (C+F)
yea, i hear you, but like they just seem to ignore me, i dont know what to do, I don't want to be seen like needy of their attention by acting ****y and funny.

Should I just ignore them too or bust them balls:D
 

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Just slap one of them and the rest will all be nice to you :)
 

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Originally posted by 1life
yea, i hear you, but like they just seem to ignore me, i dont know what to do, I don't want to be seen like needy of their attention by acting ****y and funny.

Should I just ignore them too or bust them balls:D
C AND F rarely fails. Have you tried it and you failed with these girls?

If you didn't then try.
 

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all guys school....whats urdad a lutenent in the army?...i would never tourcher my child like that! NEVer
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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