We all flirt with other girls, but I was wondering if you guys ever deal with cases where it becomes just 1 girl in particular you start flirting with more and more... To the point where you wonder what might happen if you broke it off. I was feeling that for like, over a year, but now the girl in question is out of town for good. So I'll never know. Or maybe if I run into her down the line it'll be rekindled. It was never anything close to cheating, more of a thing where she was my go-to person to joke around with every party I went to. But who knows, maybe she was only into that cause I was a harmless dude with a girlfriend.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Girls you flirt with while in a relationship
- Thread starter handle
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
zekko
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 6, 2009
- Messages
- 16,801
- Reaction score
- 10,037
I'm assuming you did not make a move on this girl because you did not want to mess up your relationship, as opposed to just not having the nerve.
If you felt there was some sort of attraction there, there probably was. I've been in numerous situations like this where I've been curious about a girl, we get along well, etc. But I'm in a relationship (and so is she usually) so nothing happens. I've been around the block a few times so I don't really feel like I'm missing anything. If you're a young guy who haven't sown your wild oats yet though, you may not be ready to be in a serious relationship if you feel like it is holding you back. Only you can answer that.
It may be that she was in a relationship also, and just enjoyed the flirtations. She may not have wanted to put her relationship in jeopardy either. Or she may have responded and been open to an affair if you had made a move. Like you said, you'll probably never know.
If you felt there was some sort of attraction there, there probably was. I've been in numerous situations like this where I've been curious about a girl, we get along well, etc. But I'm in a relationship (and so is she usually) so nothing happens. I've been around the block a few times so I don't really feel like I'm missing anything. If you're a young guy who haven't sown your wild oats yet though, you may not be ready to be in a serious relationship if you feel like it is holding you back. Only you can answer that.
It may be that she was in a relationship also, and just enjoyed the flirtations. She may not have wanted to put her relationship in jeopardy either. Or she may have responded and been open to an affair if you had made a move. Like you said, you'll probably never know.
Yeah, I knew I could make the move (I've already made out with her, etc, years ago when I was single), but there's a line you have to be willing to cross, and I didn't see the point in breaking off a perfectly good relationship for maybe a few months worth of being able to go further with her. It's just a time to reflect now that she's gone -- maybe it's time to break off my relationship, or maybe was just a transient thing.
Nothing wrong with flirting with a girl. Always have another girl lined up in case your relationship ends. Relationships actually ruin a guys chances to get more girls. Better to be single dating different girls than just to be tied down with one.
Konada
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 28, 2011
- Messages
- 1,228
- Reaction score
- 648
True but what's the point of dating if you don't intend to find someone whom you can be in a great relationship with ultimately? To get as much poon as possible? Honestly, I'd rather be with one quality girl than be around dating a couple of substandard girls and missing out on a great relationship.Pardner said:
Of course, that being said, you shouldn't be in a relationship with a sh1tty girl in the first place.
Sorry for hijacking your thread OP. Had something to voice out.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.