You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
No different really from men spinning plates is it? It comes down to options and having them.
Big difference between female plates there for sex and male orbiters used only for attention and validation…
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This. These guys are all NOT hitting it.
One hits often another occasionally and the rest just play musical chairs for her entertainment.
Yes. Some men have plates for sex and some women have orbiters for attention and validation, as pointed out many times on this site. Are both that different? I don't think so.
On Social Media
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I'm guessing they like the attention 
Yup. Social media has made it easier than ever for women to have at least a dozen men at her beck and call.
Yeah... too many choices.With social media and online dating, a lot of women have a stable of orbiters. A lot of girls I've meet online.. Tell me they get hundreds of emails everyday. They can't even go thru most of them
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah, I've done all that before. I am that guy.
Howiestern, the trick is to get into their "mind." Become chick crack.
Good post. I’m not stressing or concerned about women. I’d like to take my career to the next level. There are plenty of things I’d like to do and places to see. I have good friends from childhood for support. Dating/relationships/marriage are all a crap shoot in today’s society. If the right one comes a long and wants to roll.. Great.. If not, I’m good too
I think that’s the way single men should be.I didn't say it will necessarily solve the orbiter problem and doing those things doesn't guarantee it will go your way but what's better? Being an orbiter who isn't getting the girl or standing out? What makes you feel better about yourself from those two options, regardless of the outcome?
That's an excellent way to approach life in general and dating in particular.Good post. I’m not stressing or concerned about women. I’d like to take my career to the next level. There are plenty of things I’d like to do and places to see. I have good friends from childhood for support. Dating/relationships/marriage are all a crap shoot in today’s society. If the right one comes a long and wants to roll.. Great.. If not, I’m good too
Example.. I hopped on a plane to Miami a few months back and had a great time solo. I don’t have to be dependent on someone else for happiness and attention
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
