"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girls with headphones

silverfox

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Is it just me or do at least half the girls who look worth approcching seem to be plugged into iPods? On the bus, the train, just walking around...? This seems to be the case in the part of London I live in.

Anyone have any approaches for this scenario? How about cold approaches on public transport? I am very much an rAFC and following the shezzler's bootcamp ideas but still need all the help I can get.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BigMike

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I just get EC and smile. The interested ones take off an earplug usually.
 

SparkleMotion

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Yeah, I've noticed a large increase in the number of girls who walk around listening to their iPods inbetween classes. It's like everyone wants their life to be a movie, so they need a soundtrack in the background as they parade around campus.
 

Mr Spitfire

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I mouth the words "I love you." Not with sexy sly eyes but optimistic holding-breath sideways-looking and happy-face eyes.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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diplomatic_lies

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Yell at her "I f*cked your mum last night", then when she takes off her headphones to clarify, say "Do you have the time on you?"
 
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