Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girls with BPD: You can't save them, don't try.

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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They are simple minded in certain areas and are dead set against it
:crackup:

got that right, I learn and am dead set against the decision to become flacid and unjust... there is method to my madness

ps I don't smoke weed:p it's called a nickname, been boner since 3rd grade and da stoner since people realized the two rhyme :D
 

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Reasons why men have” relationships” with bipolar women:

1.) They’re easy/loose

In the beginning, they’re an AFC’s dream come true: a woman who’ll sleep with them on the first/second night, and fool them into thinking that their “game” was executed wonderfully, but in truth, it’s the guy who gets played. Sometimes their actions and clingy behavior mislead you into believing that you’re a stud or great lover, when in essence, they’ll f**k anything that moves and looks reasonably decent.


2.) They’re usually pretty/cute

Self-explanatory.


3.) You’re obligated to “help them.”

Their perceived vulnerabilities attract you, making guys feel that they are responsible for protecting the fragile psyche of these women. You want to help them. You feel superior, like a mentor/father/guardian, one that is all too happy to take on the obligation of being the protector. The truth is, they can’t be helped any more than a psycho from the ward can be cured with the offerings of flowers, hugs, and kisses.


They lack sensitivity, common sense, and will. They’ll say and do things that piss you off, not because they’re malicious, but because that’s how their minds operate. They don’t know any better.

Don’t be fooled into thinking that you can ride in on your white horse and save them, because you can’t. Their minds are already made up.
 
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Originally posted by Sicarius
So all of this stuff is real, then? This seems so fun! Seriously. I'm gonna try and find a girl who has this, because then I can watch all of its manifestations first-hand. This is so cool.

You can read a book about it and then see it all confirmed (or not confirmed). Man; I wish I knew a girl like this who stuck around.
Be careful of what you wish for...

My ex had a problem like that. One moment she'd be fine, then at times she was on a LOW and would stay there for a while. It was pretty sad because overall she was a really good girl. Couldn't help her though.
 

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Originally posted by AmIAFC
This chic I've been seeing has this problem and I've tried my best to help her out (we f***ed already, so I don't care if she puts me in the friend zone now).

She screws with A LOT of different guys; gets wasted more than Billy Bob in "Bad Santa"; and can't seem to focus on her work. She's risking everything she's earned up to this point by putting work off to f around with other dudes and drink the night away.

Every time I try to talk to her, it's either "Ok, I understand," or "Yes, I take your advice very seriously," but she's full of crap --- ends up doing the same thing over and over again.

Frankly, at this point, I've stopped caring; stopped being the only guy around who actually gives a f about her beyond a sexual level.

If you ever encounter one of these wenches, either steer clear or just f-them, then leave. You can't save them.
Oh, you must mean the "party girl" She is in her prime, is sexy, and has a high male to female ratio working in her favor. She has TONS of male attention, and loves every second. She gets free drinks, and free meals, and companionship, and only sleeps alone when she feels like it.

Picture the opposite scenario. There is a 6 to 1 FEMALE to male ratio. All the sexy gals, in her "league" are fighting each other (literally) for your time and attention. You are currently screwing Jenny and Jane and Cathy, but Louise and Denise both want you, and you go to a bar, your cell is ringing off the goddamed hook, the waitress is flirting with you, you've got a woman on your lap, and three other girls drag you to the dance floor, and you are in the center, as they take turns kissing on you and grinding on you. You finally decide on Cathy, because she is lookin' smoking tonight, and as you leave, all the other girls are enraged with jealousy, and talking smack about "that little slut Cathy" and you and Cathy go to her place, light the candles and incense, and break out the Kama Sutra positions book, and read it together naked.

Would you listen to "Sensible Sue" who is warning you that Cathy is a tramp, and you are too good for her, and that this lifestyle is dangerous (LOL) If your answer is "yes" then you may be a big Rupaul fan. ....or would you indulge in that lifestyle like a mutherflucker? Thats what I thought too, the woman you are describing is living this, but a female version of it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Lovesorrow
You can see their own histories in their profiles on the net.
This Borderline girl clearly shows the safety razor she uses to cut herself.

http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8774143
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8733763
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8760041

This girl claims to be bisexual and also that her parents always put her down and don't understand her.
You made an error that many guys on here make. No, that girl is too young to be possibly diagnosed as being borderline. The minimum age requirement is 18 years old. Doctors will not diagnose young teenagers because the symptoms of the disorder too closely mirrors ordinary teenage girly behavior.
 

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Originally posted by Deep Dish
You made an error that many guys on here make. No, that girl is too young to be possibly diagnosed as being borderline. The minimum age requirement is 18 years old. Doctors will not diagnose young teenagers because the symptoms of the disorder too closely mirrors ordinary teenage girly behavior.
She is already 18 years old. She even calls herself a psychopath.
She said she cuts herself to feel good, not to kill her.
 

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Originally posted by Lovesorrow
She is already 18 years old. She even calls herself a psychopath.
My bad. I was going by her pictures since I cannot read whatever language her profile is written in. She certainly does not look of age.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wow, another case of one-itis hey lovesorrow? feel like changing her and saving her from her misery?

good luck, they want fun, you can try and make them boring or find a middle ground... but you'll see what you have done to her personal psyche when she is left ot her own devices and methods.

LMFAO so what your saying deep dish is the diagnosis is faulty as there are people who are over 40 years old who still have the mind of a 5 year old, and magically the motives and actions of a teenager can never be carried into adulthood with the same audacity?

Immediately after 13 yo there is an induction of females into a new social environment with millions of new possibilities that are being revealed to them instead of something that must be found...
 

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Originally posted by Sicarius
So all of this stuff is real, then? This seems so fun! Seriously. I'm gonna try and find a girl who has this, because then I can watch all of its manifestations first-hand. This is so cool.

You can read a book about it and then see it all confirmed (or not confirmed). Man; I wish I knew a girl like this who stuck around.

If your serious then your a complete moron!!! This get's my vote for dumbest thought of the year on the DJ boards.


PIMP
 

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lol, I've seen worse... getting to know these girls on a DEEP level is what advances the game my man, since these girls are VERY common...

you just have to know how to get the rabbit out of the hat...
 

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Well, just discovered that the bipolar chic from work stabbed me in the back and now my job security and my social network at work are likely to be both in jeopardy. These chics are beyond f'd up.
 

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Originally posted by AmIAFC
Well, just discovered that the bipolar chic from work stabbed me in the back and now my job security and my social network at work are likely to be both in jeopardy. These chics are beyond f'd up.
whatd she do?

explain to otheres how she is..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by Deep Dish
My bad. I was going by her pictures since I cannot read whatever language her profile is written in. She certainly does not look of age.
Portuguese-Brazil.

Yea, some crazy girls from my country. :rolleyes:
 

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Hell this has been some pretty enlightening reading, i can understand now why a couple of girls i knew acted the way they did.

I have to wonder though at times, is it so wrong to want to try to help someone? Yeah i know what you guys say that it's a waste of time, and yeah i agree at times. But that still doesn't hide the fact that some people do need help, and if your such a person of high status in their lives, wouldn't you be better at helping them.
 

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I dated a BPD girl too. She had huge jugs, so tragic :(.

And wowiehowie, don't feel bad about analyzing her. I did the same thing. I'm really interested in psychology, so this was too good of an oppurtunity to pass up.

I don't reccomend anyone to stay with a girl with BPD. I didn't even sleep with mine cuz I was afraid she would accuse me of raping her after we broke up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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