wowiehowie
Banned
- Joined
- Oct 4, 2005
- Messages
- 171
- Reaction score
- 0
Anyone else here get the connection?Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
I am BPD...
...They are simple minded
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girls with BPD: You can't save them, don't try.
- Thread starter AmIAFC
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
:crackup:
got that right, I learn and am dead set against the decision to become flacid and unjust... there is method to my madness
ps I don't smoke weed
it's called a nickname, been boner since 3rd grade and da stoner since people realized the two rhyme Reasons why men have” relationships” with bipolar women:
1.) They’re easy/loose
In the beginning, they’re an AFC’s dream come true: a woman who’ll sleep with them on the first/second night, and fool them into thinking that their “game” was executed wonderfully, but in truth, it’s the guy who gets played. Sometimes their actions and clingy behavior mislead you into believing that you’re a stud or great lover, when in essence, they’ll f**k anything that moves and looks reasonably decent.
2.) They’re usually pretty/cute
Self-explanatory.
3.) You’re obligated to “help them.”
Their perceived vulnerabilities attract you, making guys feel that they are responsible for protecting the fragile psyche of these women. You want to help them. You feel superior, like a mentor/father/guardian, one that is all too happy to take on the obligation of being the protector. The truth is, they can’t be helped any more than a psycho from the ward can be cured with the offerings of flowers, hugs, and kisses.
They lack sensitivity, common sense, and will. They’ll say and do things that piss you off, not because they’re malicious, but because that’s how their minds operate. They don’t know any better.
Don’t be fooled into thinking that you can ride in on your white horse and save them, because you can’t. Their minds are already made up.
1.) They’re easy/loose
In the beginning, they’re an AFC’s dream come true: a woman who’ll sleep with them on the first/second night, and fool them into thinking that their “game” was executed wonderfully, but in truth, it’s the guy who gets played. Sometimes their actions and clingy behavior mislead you into believing that you’re a stud or great lover, when in essence, they’ll f**k anything that moves and looks reasonably decent.
2.) They’re usually pretty/cute
Self-explanatory.
3.) You’re obligated to “help them.”
Their perceived vulnerabilities attract you, making guys feel that they are responsible for protecting the fragile psyche of these women. You want to help them. You feel superior, like a mentor/father/guardian, one that is all too happy to take on the obligation of being the protector. The truth is, they can’t be helped any more than a psycho from the ward can be cured with the offerings of flowers, hugs, and kisses.
They lack sensitivity, common sense, and will. They’ll say and do things that piss you off, not because they’re malicious, but because that’s how their minds operate. They don’t know any better.
Don’t be fooled into thinking that you can ride in on your white horse and save them, because you can’t. Their minds are already made up.
Last edited:
Be careful of what you wish for...
My ex had a problem like that. One moment she'd be fine, then at times she was on a LOW and would stay there for a while. It was pretty sad because overall she was a really good girl. Couldn't help her though.
JackPrescott
Banned
- Joined
- Apr 19, 2005
- Messages
- 860
- Reaction score
- 7
Oh, you must mean the "party girl" She is in her prime, is sexy, and has a high male to female ratio working in her favor. She has TONS of male attention, and loves every second. She gets free drinks, and free meals, and companionship, and only sleeps alone when she feels like it.
Picture the opposite scenario. There is a 6 to 1 FEMALE to male ratio. All the sexy gals, in her "league" are fighting each other (literally) for your time and attention. You are currently screwing Jenny and Jane and Cathy, but Louise and Denise both want you, and you go to a bar, your cell is ringing off the goddamed hook, the waitress is flirting with you, you've got a woman on your lap, and three other girls drag you to the dance floor, and you are in the center, as they take turns kissing on you and grinding on you. You finally decide on Cathy, because she is lookin' smoking tonight, and as you leave, all the other girls are enraged with jealousy, and talking smack about "that little slut Cathy" and you and Cathy go to her place, light the candles and incense, and break out the Kama Sutra positions book, and read it together naked.
Would you listen to "Sensible Sue" who is warning you that Cathy is a tramp, and you are too good for her, and that this lifestyle is dangerous (LOL) If your answer is "yes" then you may be a big Rupaul fan. ....or would you indulge in that lifestyle like a mutherflucker? Thats what I thought too, the woman you are describing is living this, but a female version of it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Lovesorrow
Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 3, 2005
- Messages
- 39
- Reaction score
- 0
You can see their own histories in their profiles on the net.
This Borderline girl clearly shows the safety razor she uses to cut herself.
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8774143
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8733763
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8760041
This girl claims to be bisexual and also that her parents always put her down and don't understand her.
This Borderline girl clearly shows the safety razor she uses to cut herself.
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8774143
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8733763
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8760041
This girl claims to be bisexual and also that her parents always put her down and don't understand her.
Last edited:
You made an error that many guys on here make. No, that girl is too young to be possibly diagnosed as being borderline. The minimum age requirement is 18 years old. Doctors will not diagnose young teenagers because the symptoms of the disorder too closely mirrors ordinary teenage girly behavior.
Lovesorrow
Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 3, 2005
- Messages
- 39
- Reaction score
- 0
She is already 18 years old. She even calls herself a psychopath.
She said she cuts herself to feel good, not to kill her.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
wow, another case of one-itis hey lovesorrow? feel like changing her and saving her from her misery?
good luck, they want fun, you can try and make them boring or find a middle ground... but you'll see what you have done to her personal psyche when she is left ot her own devices and methods.
LMFAO so what your saying deep dish is the diagnosis is faulty as there are people who are over 40 years old who still have the mind of a 5 year old, and magically the motives and actions of a teenager can never be carried into adulthood with the same audacity?
Immediately after 13 yo there is an induction of females into a new social environment with millions of new possibilities that are being revealed to them instead of something that must be found...
good luck, they want fun, you can try and make them boring or find a middle ground... but you'll see what you have done to her personal psyche when she is left ot her own devices and methods.
LMFAO so what your saying deep dish is the diagnosis is faulty as there are people who are over 40 years old who still have the mind of a 5 year old, and magically the motives and actions of a teenager can never be carried into adulthood with the same audacity?
Immediately after 13 yo there is an induction of females into a new social environment with millions of new possibilities that are being revealed to them instead of something that must be found...
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
If your serious then your a complete moron!!! This get's my vote for dumbest thought of the year on the DJ boards.
PIMP
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
lol, I've seen worse... getting to know these girls on a DEEP level is what advances the game my man, since these girls are VERY common...
you just have to know how to get the rabbit out of the hat...
you just have to know how to get the rabbit out of the hat...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Hell this has been some pretty enlightening reading, i can understand now why a couple of girls i knew acted the way they did.
I have to wonder though at times, is it so wrong to want to try to help someone? Yeah i know what you guys say that it's a waste of time, and yeah i agree at times. But that still doesn't hide the fact that some people do need help, and if your such a person of high status in their lives, wouldn't you be better at helping them.
I have to wonder though at times, is it so wrong to want to try to help someone? Yeah i know what you guys say that it's a waste of time, and yeah i agree at times. But that still doesn't hide the fact that some people do need help, and if your such a person of high status in their lives, wouldn't you be better at helping them.
I dated a BPD girl too. She had huge jugs, so tragic .
And wowiehowie, don't feel bad about analyzing her. I did the same thing. I'm really interested in psychology, so this was too good of an oppurtunity to pass up.
I don't reccomend anyone to stay with a girl with BPD. I didn't even sleep with mine cuz I was afraid she would accuse me of raping her after we broke up.
.And wowiehowie, don't feel bad about analyzing her. I did the same thing. I'm really interested in psychology, so this was too good of an oppurtunity to pass up.
I don't reccomend anyone to stay with a girl with BPD. I didn't even sleep with mine cuz I was afraid she would accuse me of raping her after we broke up.
KarmaSutra
Banned
- Joined
- Oct 13, 2005
- Messages
- 4,818
- Reaction score
- 142
- Age
- 53
bbestar said:
Aren't there a couple of young, fresh 8 year old boys to " minister "? Show them where thier gully hole is?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.