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Anyone else here get the connection?Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
I am BPD...
...They are simple minded
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Anyone else here get the connection?Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
I am BPD...
...They are simple minded
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
:crackup:They are simple minded in certain areas and are dead set against it
Be careful of what you wish for...Originally posted by Sicarius
So all of this stuff is real, then? This seems so fun! Seriously. I'm gonna try and find a girl who has this, because then I can watch all of its manifestations first-hand. This is so cool.
You can read a book about it and then see it all confirmed (or not confirmed). Man; I wish I knew a girl like this who stuck around.
Oh, you must mean the "party girl" She is in her prime, is sexy, and has a high male to female ratio working in her favor. She has TONS of male attention, and loves every second. She gets free drinks, and free meals, and companionship, and only sleeps alone when she feels like it.Originally posted by AmIAFC
This chic I've been seeing has this problem and I've tried my best to help her out (we f***ed already, so I don't care if she puts me in the friend zone now).
She screws with A LOT of different guys; gets wasted more than Billy Bob in "Bad Santa"; and can't seem to focus on her work. She's risking everything she's earned up to this point by putting work off to f around with other dudes and drink the night away.
Every time I try to talk to her, it's either "Ok, I understand," or "Yes, I take your advice very seriously," but she's full of crap --- ends up doing the same thing over and over again.
Frankly, at this point, I've stopped caring; stopped being the only guy around who actually gives a f about her beyond a sexual level.
If you ever encounter one of these wenches, either steer clear or just f-them, then leave. You can't save them.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You made an error that many guys on here make. No, that girl is too young to be possibly diagnosed as being borderline. The minimum age requirement is 18 years old. Doctors will not diagnose young teenagers because the symptoms of the disorder too closely mirrors ordinary teenage girly behavior.Originally posted by Lovesorrow
You can see their own histories in their profiles on the net.
This Borderline girl clearly shows the safety razor she uses to cut herself.
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8774143
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8733763
http://www.fotolog.net/insomniac666/?photo_id=8760041
This girl claims to be bisexual and also that her parents always put her down and don't understand her.
She is already 18 years old. She even calls herself a psychopath.Originally posted by Deep Dish
You made an error that many guys on here make. No, that girl is too young to be possibly diagnosed as being borderline. The minimum age requirement is 18 years old. Doctors will not diagnose young teenagers because the symptoms of the disorder too closely mirrors ordinary teenage girly behavior.
My bad. I was going by her pictures since I cannot read whatever language her profile is written in. She certainly does not look of age.Originally posted by Lovesorrow
She is already 18 years old. She even calls herself a psychopath.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Originally posted by Sicarius
So all of this stuff is real, then? This seems so fun! Seriously. I'm gonna try and find a girl who has this, because then I can watch all of its manifestations first-hand. This is so cool.
You can read a book about it and then see it all confirmed (or not confirmed). Man; I wish I knew a girl like this who stuck around.
whatd she do?Originally posted by AmIAFC
Well, just discovered that the bipolar chic from work stabbed me in the back and now my job security and my social network at work are likely to be both in jeopardy. These chics are beyond f'd up.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Portuguese-Brazil.Originally posted by Deep Dish
My bad. I was going by her pictures since I cannot read whatever language her profile is written in. She certainly does not look of age.
bbestar said:She needs Jesus Christ
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.