She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Everything else made me shake my head at the stupidity of your keyboard discussion.Julius_Seizeher said:Living alone=raging slvt?
That's a dumb argument to try to make. Stop trying to be an armchair psychologist of everyone else, it's a very neurotic habit.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
look at the facts, she lives alone. she can bring a guy round any time she wants. has noone to judge her, no roommates no friends. no one knows, except her neighbours.Julius_Seizeher said:Living alone=raging slvt?
That's a dumb argument to try to make. Stop trying to be an armchair psychologist of everyone else, it's a very neurotic habit.
Julius_Seizeher said:Living alone=raging slvt?
That's a dumb argument to try to make. Stop trying to be an armchair psychologist of everyone else, it's a very neurotic habit.
yeah they may be independent, but also noone can stand living with them and they can't live with someone else. women get lonley if they're by themselves.gimmeyofonenumba said:Listen to killer diller. You guys need to socialize more. Most woman that live alone are independent with a decent job. Some of the slutiest women I've met had roomates. One had been with over 50 guys and her roomate was constantly bringing guys over, like the bunny house or something. They see their roomate with a guy and get jealous and get their own. I'd take a girl that lives by herself any day. Strong sign of confidence.
im not a troll.Iceberg said:He's a troll.
You're better off not treating him like a real person.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
yes, ok but then if she lives by herself she CAN act like a slvt if she wanted and noone would know?5string said:If she lives alone or with a roommate is no indication as to whether or not she's a slvt.
If she has a cat or a bird, well, that's a different story.
pete101 said:im not a troll.
unfortunately everything i've written is true, pathetically maybe, but still true.
you keep talking about advice given to me and i dont listen, i do listen but nobody explains to me the theory as to WHY you need to do it this way or that. i've read the DJB but it doesn't work into my exact situations.
and by the time i'm given advice it's too late, the next stage of the interaction between me and said HB is already on a different level i.e. i've texted something else not because i didnt listen but noone replied in time, so there's a new scenario.. then people like you keep going on and on about how i dont listen and take advice when that said advice is too late to take, hence my next questions.
advice is only good to a person if it's at that same stage it's needed.
'move on forget about her get new plates' advice is not helpful.. you havent' explained why what i did was wrong, i'm trying to learn what i'm doing wrong each time so i dont do it again, but all the advice is always 'just get new plates' so i go from plate to plate not learning anything.
not everyone who lives alone is are sluts, but the potential to be one is there without anyone knowing. The girl I am seeing lives alone in an apartment, very independent, very clean and tidy. Is she a slut? she doesn't seem so to me but she could be without me knowing about it.pete101 said:yes, ok but then if she lives by herself she CAN act like a slvt if she wanted and noone would know?
no the answers and advice are good, the problem is the advice given to me is too late.. i.e. i've asked for something to write/textIceberg said:Ha. Right.
Then isn't it strange that you keep returning to this site asking questions, when you dislike the quality of the answers given to you?
this is what i try to focus on, her own place is great cos u dont have to worry about the roommate being b1tchy or anything. but how can you really tell, if she says 'my friends say i should have a different guy round every weekend, but i say i dont, i respect myself too much.' this just makes me think she has in the past, and not so much now.Htienvu said:not everyone who lives alone is are sluts, but the potential to be one is there without anyone knowing. The girl I am seeing lives alone in an apartment, very independent, very clean and tidy. Is she a slut? she doesn't seem so to me but she could be without me knowing about it.
But I don't think about that, I am thinking I am having a good time with her at the moment and she having her own apartment is a bonus.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.