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girls who live by themselves, always raging slvts?

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do women who live by themselves always raging slvts?

the stuff i hear about they're clean freaks etc.. yeah right freaks all right..
 

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Hey i have this question too in my mind, thanks for posting it up.

Basically dude i think they are AW's.
they invite their gf's to party and ***** around, this will be a warm up place for them, to learn some bar and clubbing tactics.
 

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they can bring round a different guy every night if they wanted with noone (except their neighbours) none the wiser.

if she has a roommate you can guarantee she'll get b1tched about.
 

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You guys need to get out more. I'd take a woman who lives on her own over one who rooms with others any day. If anything, an independent woman would be less promiscuous than would a woman with roommates, due to safety issues. More importantly, women who live on their own are obviously comfortable by themselves. That's a pretty strong sign of confidence.
 

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She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

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Living alone=raging slvt?

That's a dumb argument to try to make. Stop trying to be an armchair psychologist of everyone else, it's a very neurotic habit.
 

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Listen to killer diller. You guys need to socialize more. Most woman that live alone are independent with a decent job. Some of the slutiest women I've met had roomates. One had been with over 50 guys and her roomate was constantly bringing guys over, like the bunny house or something. They see their roomate with a guy and get jealous and get their own. I'd take a girl that lives by herself any day. Strong sign of confidence.
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
Living alone=raging slvt?

That's a dumb argument to try to make. Stop trying to be an armchair psychologist of everyone else, it's a very neurotic habit.
look at the facts, she lives alone. she can bring a guy round any time she wants. has noone to judge her, no roommates no friends. no one knows, except her neighbours.

im not saying she is a raging slvt. but the option is there for her do it and not feel guilty about doing it. it's a win win for her.

the women i've encountered who have lived alone have all been clean freaks which is fine, but i did sense they slept around a lot as well.
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
Living alone=raging slvt?

That's a dumb argument to try to make. Stop trying to be an armchair psychologist of everyone else, it's a very neurotic habit.

He's a troll.

You're better off not treating him like a real person.
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
Listen to killer diller. You guys need to socialize more. Most woman that live alone are independent with a decent job. Some of the slutiest women I've met had roomates. One had been with over 50 guys and her roomate was constantly bringing guys over, like the bunny house or something. They see their roomate with a guy and get jealous and get their own. I'd take a girl that lives by herself any day. Strong sign of confidence.
yeah they may be independent, but also noone can stand living with them and they can't live with someone else. women get lonley if they're by themselves.

i think you're deluding yourself thinking women who live by themselves are angels, they're right out there bringing guys back when they choose and dont need to worry about getting sh1t for it later. i'm not saying one night stands but she has no concerns about anyone finding out.
 

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If she lives alone or with a roommate is no indication as to whether or not she's a slvt.

If she has a cat or a bird, well, that's a different story.
 

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He's a troll.

You're better off not treating him like a real person.
im not a troll.

unfortunately everything i've written is true, pathetically maybe, but still true.

you keep talking about advice given to me and i dont listen, i do listen but nobody explains to me the theory as to WHY you need to do it this way or that. i've read the DJB but it doesn't work into my exact situations.

and by the time i'm given advice it's too late, the next stage of the interaction between me and said HB is already on a different level i.e. i've texted something else not because i didnt listen but noone replied in time, so there's a new scenario.. then people like you keep going on and on about how i dont listen and take advice when that said advice is too late to take, hence my next questions.

advice is only good to a person if it's at that same stage it's needed.

'move on forget about her get new plates' advice is not helpful.. you havent' explained why what i did was wrong, i'm trying to learn what i'm doing wrong each time so i dont do it again, but all the advice is always 'just get new plates' so i go from plate to plate not learning anything.
 

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5string said:
If she lives alone or with a roommate is no indication as to whether or not she's a slvt.

If she has a cat or a bird, well, that's a different story.
yes, ok but then if she lives by herself she CAN act like a slvt if she wanted and noone would know?
 

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pete101 said:
im not a troll.

unfortunately everything i've written is true, pathetically maybe, but still true.

you keep talking about advice given to me and i dont listen, i do listen but nobody explains to me the theory as to WHY you need to do it this way or that. i've read the DJB but it doesn't work into my exact situations.

and by the time i'm given advice it's too late, the next stage of the interaction between me and said HB is already on a different level i.e. i've texted something else not because i didnt listen but noone replied in time, so there's a new scenario.. then people like you keep going on and on about how i dont listen and take advice when that said advice is too late to take, hence my next questions.

advice is only good to a person if it's at that same stage it's needed.

'move on forget about her get new plates' advice is not helpful.. you havent' explained why what i did was wrong, i'm trying to learn what i'm doing wrong each time so i dont do it again, but all the advice is always 'just get new plates' so i go from plate to plate not learning anything.

Ha. Right.

Then isn't it strange that you keep returning to this site asking questions, when you dislike the quality of the answers given to you?
 

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pete101 said:
yes, ok but then if she lives by herself she CAN act like a slvt if she wanted and noone would know?
not everyone who lives alone is are sluts, but the potential to be one is there without anyone knowing. The girl I am seeing lives alone in an apartment, very independent, very clean and tidy. Is she a slut? she doesn't seem so to me but she could be without me knowing about it.

But I don't think about that, I am thinking I am having a good time with her at the moment and she having her own apartment is a bonus.
 

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Ha. Right.

Then isn't it strange that you keep returning to this site asking questions, when you dislike the quality of the answers given to you?
no the answers and advice are good, the problem is the advice given to me is too late.. i.e. i've asked for something to write/text

i wait a few hours, no reply. when eventually the replies come in i've already sent something else so that old advice is not relevant anymore.

then a few days later it might be a different scenario with the same HB, giving me advice on what's happened in the past isn't helpful that's why i ask different questions.

sometimes i get great detailed advice which makes sense and i learn from, but normally it's just 'get new plates' so i go from HB to HB making same mistakes without actually knowing how or why. there isn't enough detail in the advice i get, i need to understand the theory or someone to explain to me why something will work.
 

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Htienvu said:
not everyone who lives alone is are sluts, but the potential to be one is there without anyone knowing. The girl I am seeing lives alone in an apartment, very independent, very clean and tidy. Is she a slut? she doesn't seem so to me but she could be without me knowing about it.

But I don't think about that, I am thinking I am having a good time with her at the moment and she having her own apartment is a bonus.
this is what i try to focus on, her own place is great cos u dont have to worry about the roommate being b1tchy or anything. but how can you really tell, if she says 'my friends say i should have a different guy round every weekend, but i say i dont, i respect myself too much.' this just makes me think she has in the past, and not so much now.

tbh i dont really mind if she's slept with a lot of guys, i seem to get more p1ssed off at if she's making me jump through hoops in order to sleep with her whereas some good looking guy she picks up at a club gets it no question.. or the fact that while she's single she's sleeping around just having fun and im not getting any cos she sees me as 'long term' the whole provider not lover BS.

i dont want to be a provider even if im getting it, i just want to be the lover. but it dont know how to communicate these things.

would you be bothered WHO she slept with? i know this is a contentious question, but i have issues with a woman i'm seeing sleeping with certain ethnic minorities, like i judge her for even considering them though i dont judge the guys for doing what they do.. it's just the girls they go for i notice where i come from are kinda trashy and low class, so it's difficult for me to separate her from them and the fact she's attracted to them just makes it look like i'd have problems in future as her head will turn, if i was her physical and ethnic type then i wouldnt care or worry, but you can just seem a potential headache in future if you get into an argument or something.
 

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