"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Girls who don't talk much..

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Can't figure out how to "seduce" these types. I've always been more of an "adder" when it comes to conversing, meaning I'm best at making funny, witty, clever, teasing, ect comments as someone else talks, but obviously this "game" doesn't work unless the girl is talking a lot. I've had two first dates recently..

On the first, the girl would talk, elaborate, and tell me a story whenever I'd ask her a question, so it was easy to keep the conversation going. I didn't have to do much and the girl even texted me after the date saying she had a great time. Unfortunately she wasn't that attractive to me.

The second first date was tonight, but this girl wasn't as talkative. I even want to say that I may have talked 70% of the time, and I'm not a great talker and story-teller, so this isn't.. Well... Good lol. I mean, there were a good amount of laughs and I was able to keep the conversation going most of the hour and 45 minutes (keyword being "most"), but it felt awkward at times, and yes, there were two or three silent moments, which is death these days because girls have so many different options ("don't have immediate, overflowing chemistry with this guy? No problem, there are 20 others lined up who want to go out with me. Forget this one).

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Korrupt said:
Can't figure out how to "seduce" these types. I've always been more of an "adder" when it comes to conversing, meaning I'm best at making funny, witty, clever, teasing, ect comments as someone else talks, but obviously this "game" doesn't work unless the girl is talking a lot. I've had two first dates recently..

On the first, the girl would talk, elaborate, and tell me a story whenever I'd ask her a question, so it was easy to keep the conversation going. I didn't have to do much and the girl even texted me after the date saying she had a great time. Unfortunately she wasn't that attractive to me.

The second first date was tonight, but this girl wasn't as talkative. I even want to say that I may have talked 70% of the time, and I'm not a great talker and story-teller, so this isn't.. Well... Good lol. I mean, there were a good amount of laughs and I was able to keep the conversation going most of the hour and 45 minutes (keyword being "most"), but it felt awkward at times, and yes, there were two or three silent moments, which is death these days because girls have so many different options ("don't have immediate, overflowing chemistry with this guy? No problem, there are 20 others lined up who want to go out with me. Forget this one).

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Huh, interesting.. Figured I'd shoot her a text and say we should hang out again soon, but didn't actually expect to get anything back. Oddly enough she responded saying "yeah it was fun- we will have to do it again!"
 
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You're over thinking here man. Just because there are awkward moments doesn't mean its over, they're bound to happen. As long as you enjoy yourself she will more than likely will too.

Actions over words. (second date right?)

Also, your mindset is compromised if it wasn't already established. Instead of focusing on story time, focus on enjoying yourself.
 
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same problem here man... I'm still working on improving my conversation skills though... anyway I usually had luck so most of the girls were very talkative...
 
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I had that happen once and told her straight out "have we run out of things to talk about?" she was a quiet type her self, we'd been dating for almost a year at that point.

It didn't bother her at all. which surprised me.


and you can always quote "pulp fiction" for that awkward moment....usually gets a laugh.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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non talkers are underrated! married one, she was a good wife, last ltr was a not so much of a talker, she was cool, had an ltr witha talker, did my f ccuking head in, couldnt watch a dvd and follow the plot. I swear we watched a few and I have no idea what was going on with the movie, dont dismiss the nt's so quick, sex was as good
 
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Granted I'm more talkative than I used to be, but I've had girls in the past tell me they loved that they could be with me in silence and it's not awkward. If you don't act uncomfortable, they won't either.
 
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I used to attract this type often, back when I was quieter and less outspoken. I don't bother much with them anymore as I got tired of having to constantly drive like 90% of the conversation.
 
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Scratch that. Hit her up today about going out this weekend and never got a response. Women truly never cease to amaze me.
 
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Huh, interesting.. Figured I'd shoot her a text and say we should hang out again soon, but didn't actually expect to get anything back. Oddly enough she responded saying "yeah it was fun- we will have to do it again!"
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It was dead from that moment on. The vibe I got from the OP plus this was too much of a giveaway :(
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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